I would love some advice or opinions, and I don't actually care if you're ftm or mtf if you have something to say, but since I'm ftm, I thought I'd post it here.
Probably my biggest problem with being transgendered is something that can't be fixed - it doesn't matter if I have surgery or not. And that's dating!
First, I tried to be a woman, but didn't do it very well, and often got comments from other people about "not being feminine enough" as being the reason why no one was interested.
Now, I'm pre-op, and living as a man... and now woman are hitting on me, which I guess means I can't be completely unattractive. The problem is, I like guys, and they like me even less than they did before.
Some day, if I get my surgery, I'll be a guy with no penis... and I've already been told by several guys (who liked guys too) that no man is ever going to want to date a guy without one. It was never said to be rude, but because these guys felt that I'd be happier trying to be a straight woman. But I've already tried that...
So... I feel like whatever I do or don't do, I'll have to accept being permanently single - as I have been for all my 31 years. I haven't even lost my virginity yet
I try to tell myself that I have to accept that and stop hoping to meet someone... but I really hate being single, so it just can't do that
I don't think being Danish helps either, by the way... I mean, there's no such thing as dating sites here or anything like that for someone like me.
I can join an international one and hope someone won't care about the distance (actually, I have tried that), but why would anyone want to talk to me when they have other choices much closer to them?
I go out, so it's not that I only know how to use my computer, and I go places where there's other transgendered people... but only get hit on by lesbian woman
It really makes me depressed, even suicidal sometimes.
I'm sure I can't be the only person struggling with something like this... so if you are and you've found a way to deal with it... what do you do? The few transmen I know in "real life" are all straight, and doesn't seem to have that much trouble finding girlfriends... so they can't really give me any advice, they always ask me if I'm sure I don't like girls