Would like to know if anybody else is dealing with this. Have finally come to accept my feminine self with therapy. Now I have lost interest in sexual activity, either as a male or female. Any comments? FYI, I am a 40-something MTF CD/TG, married, heterosexual and she does not know.
My sex drive ebbs and flows (in my first marrage we went for years without sex at one point and AFAIK neither of us missed it...)
FWIW I noticed that after sex (or even masturbation) I have a much lower "need" to wear skirts, etc. or my breast enhancers. So I can't deny that in my case there's some linkage.
My dad's only advice when I announced I was engaged at 17 was "Don't forget your homework." For years I had no idea what he was talking about, but I later learned that my parents had sex nightly till their 25th anniversary when my father asked if they could change it to every other night
With this in mind I remember to climb out of my own little world and have a good time with my wife as often as possible even if sometimes at the beginning I'm not necessarily in the mood: But I sure enjoy it anyway after I get started
As I have gotten older, my sex drive has decreased significantly. Been married over 30 years, and we probably are down to a couple of times a month. Curious about the hormone factor. If my testosterone levels are decreasing, does that explain the increase in desire to dress in female clothes, but without the previous levels of sexual stimulation?
hmmm....
Last edited by janet73; 11-03-2008 at 07:13 PM.
My sex drive has really faded. I really don't have much of a desire for sex. I only have sex with my wife to please her.
Stacey
Can't get it into gear? Maybe it's a trans problem. I'd also check the driveshaft.
Sorry, I couldn't resist.
I have never had a huge sex drive. I think part of the reason is due to the fact that while attracted to women, I mainly think about being them as opposed to being with them. I am also very passive sexually. Since I don't make many advances towards women they percieve that as not interested.
A line in a tv sitcom really hit home. 2 guys out at a bar. One is a player, the other never gets the girl. The player say to the other guy - you are like a 24hr convience store, when it come to getting women. You never close. Bad humor aside, I seem to fit the same description. I have no trouble meeting and talking to women. I never turn it into something more. I believe this has less to do with my ability to date women and perhaps more to do with limited sexual interest (in gerneral).
Gen
In a word, yes probably (OK that's two words). As men age our testosterone levels drop off, but our estrogen levels remain fairly constant. Testosterone is the major factor in the level of sex drive be you male or female. Women have less of it naturally so their sex drives are usually lower than a man's of similar age. So it tends to even out. Does that make a man more likely to CD as he gets older? Can't say for sure but there are a lot of older CDers out there.Originally Posted by janet73
Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder.
Good one Gen,LOL
Nicole, I'd talk it over w/ your therapist and see what he/she thinks. They may just to be on the safe side run a few blood tests, I lost mine for a short time, turned out it was an endoctrine problem. Problem now solved.
Being over 50 now (54) my sex drive has fallen quite a bit, only 14 years ago I was good for sexual fun at least 4 times a week, with or without my wife, now It is more like about twice a month, I find that most of the time I would much rather help my wife orgasm and that alone gives me great pleasure(whether I orgasm or not seems to not really matter to me)
Honestly dressing FEMME gives me more pleasure and longer lasting satisfaction than any orgasm could ever do for me , but I must admit when younger I did have alot of fun!!!!
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I am 55 and the same here have not had sex in over (I had to stop and think when the last time was) I don't know when I last had sex can't remember. Have not miss it, is this what geting old is.
Annaliese
I have been in therapy too and after I accepted my feminine self I have also noticed that my sexual desire has decreased. I´m 51 years old and I´m not sure what is the reason, the aceptance of my femenine self or the age ...
Last edited by María José; 11-03-2008 at 02:25 PM.
I'm 59 and have no loss of desire. I do take a suppliment that is not designed for sex drive but for general youthfulness. I'm not sure if that is what is doing it but I workout regularly and I know that helps.
Hugs,
Dana Fleming
me well I'm 48 not married no sex drive and can't afford to get it fixed
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Sex drive?
Is that a turning off the freeway?
Married 33 years.... what sex drive? Hell... what's sex.... I can't remember!!
52 years, sex drive minimal.
But don't have a problem doing it if needed, just need someone to do it with.
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With Love,
Kimberly
"Count it pure joy when the world comes crashin
hold your head up and keep on dancin" MercyMe
I'm 62 and have plenty of snow on the roof and have plenty of fire in the furnace too.
I'm not as big on it as I once was. But then I'm 60 years old now maybe that's it.
Angie
A lot like Gen, have had lots of women friends, but, never had a lover, or sex. When younger, felt like my male sex drive was a predatory thing, and many women consider it so, so I was ashamed of my male drive. At 54, the only sex I have had, is solo, and the last several years, has almost vanished. Ginseng helps a little, but, being on meds, has killed it too! I do grieve, the fact, that I never had sex, with a mate, but, twice, i had a chance, but, due to morals, didn't go all the way. One said suppliments. I can't affore viagra. Natural ginseng, health food store elixers might help a little. Dressing totally got me turned on, at first, but the old bloke in me, and lady, the laucher just have a hard time launching the rocket, now.
I am sixty-one. When I turned fifty I was found to have prostate cancer. Part of the therapy included hormone treatment (suppression of testosterone that lasted for two years--absolutely no interest in sex). Now, ten years later I feel like a teenager, and with the freedom to wear female clothing and express my female side withing a loving partnership (a wife who is true companion), I am randier than ever. Unfortunately on one hand, my wife is dealing with post-menopause issues that have decreased her ability and desire for intercourse. Fortunately on the other hand, our relationship has grown stronger and emotionally more intimate as we build new pathways for demonstrating physical appreciation for each other. Cross-dressing is part of the mix.
My sex drive is still going strong. I've been married for over 20 years and still she turns me on (there is a song to that effect). My sex drive is't what it was when I was 20. I had a perpetual woody back then.I still enjoy sex very much. It is an improtant part of my life and my relationship with my wonderful wife.
Well, 64 here and still in business in that department. I've had my testosterone checked looking for a cause of osteoporosis and it was normal. I could have told the doctor that without the blood test. I'm certainly not operating like I was at 18 but I'm happy to report that my wife, who is older than I am, and myself still enjoy that part of our relationship on a regular basis. Crossdressing seems to help keep the furnace stoked for me.
I still want it, and crave it everyday, multiple times a day and I'm 45. Thank god because I enjoy it so much. Hope it lasts.
sex drive still have mine but i the so wood touch me at all i wood have a big woody still love her to death
I do not mean to offend anybody through this post - I think the loss of sex drive may be due to factors different from self-acceptance.
I have not lost my sex drive one bit. I am 30 now and I knew since very early childhood, around age 3 or 4, that I was not male inside my head. I reached that acceptance by 16, and the acceptance that I can be attracted to women and still be a woman by 22. I was on hormones for a few months first, but that did not change my sex drive. I stopped hormones to preserve sperm and it was agonizing to not have sex for 3-7 days, which was necessary for sperm banking. Now I am back on hormones and I have not lost my sex drive. The hormones affected sperm motility, but not sex drive.
I don't think estrogen supresses sex drive. On the contrary, I think it affects sex drive on a similar way than testosterone. Recently, with the accepting of this part of me, my body has started showing signs of producing it's own estrogen (that's discussed on another thread), and less testosterone.
I've always been a very sexual person, but since I started CDing my sex drive has gotten even higher!
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