This is just a bit of musing on my own situation and may have no meaning to anybody else.
I can tuck but I rarely do so. When I dress I go for a complete femme look, with wig, make-up, perfume, the lot. I can pass as female in public. But underneath I wear generously cut (feminine) underwear that allows my ‘bits’ to just find their own position, and I wear skirts with a full style that does not show any frontal bulge.
And when I am being Ruth I am fully aware of being a man dressed as a woman. When I contemplate my CDing I don’t think I am a woman trapped in the body of a man, I don’t want to change my body with hormones or surgery. I enjoy my time flaunting my feminine side, whilst still holding on to the fact that I am a man.
So, those who feel they have to tuck to be fully crossdressed – are they experiencing something different? Are they ‘being’ a woman when they dress? Do they feel it necessary to push away completely out of sight the evidence of their maleness? Is it a preparation for a more permanent alteration 'down there'?
I’m not trying to be divisive here. I acknowledge all forms of CDing as equally valid expressions of our inner selves. I’m just curious as to whether members feel the tuck is a purely cosmetic exercise or is a potent expression of femaleness for CDers.