Here's the sit rep, Your at a bar dressed,and a man ask's you to dance,your not gay..

[lari]

I would dance without a second thought

[Brina Halloween]

I didn't get asked this year but, it did happen twice last year....then I spoke and they realized. It was kind of funny since I was talking to ladies about dressing each time. The one dance I did with a guy, he did not bother to ask. He knew when he grabbed me though. Usually the guy starts with the left and the lady the right...

Brina

[CharleneT]

Unless I was already worn out, I would dance with him. What's a dance anyway ? Just a quick turn on the floor with another person for fun. I've danced with many men, while dressed, who had no intention of coming on to me. They just wanted to dance with me (I'm a pretty good dancer).

GO FOR IT! Life is short, enjoy it.

C.

[MJ]

First I'd let him know I'm a man. then if he is still OK i would dance . hell i would give him a kiss too. and after that well ..i claim the fifth

[Ashlyee Paige]

If he is cute no problem! If you are not interested just politely decline, I dont get asked alot by guys but lesbians ask me to dance ALOT and I have a blast :> just fun to dance with anyone, I dont like to go out on the floor alone so I usually dance when someone asks.

[trannie T]

If he wasn't creepy or drunk it might be fun.

[Jocelyn Renee]

My wife and I go to a friend's club near our home once or twice a week and I spend the majority of my time on the dance floor. Throughout the night I end up dancing with pretty much everyone there - male and female. Everyone knows us so I have no problems with people trying to take things too far. It's just good time. From time to time I have found myself in situation where men I do not know hit on me. I just let them know my situation up front and make sure they don't get the wrong idea.

[Mitzi]

I posted this awhile back...apropos this thread...

"Another story from the past, maybe to be shared vicariously by those who have yet to step out...

Back in the 80's, I was at a T-bar (en femme) in Los Angeles nursing a drink. In walks a "gurl", looking all the world like a soccer mom all dressed up for a coctail party. She says let's go to this straight country western bar in the Valley. Okay, so we drive there, take a swig from a flask she'd carried to bolster our nerves, then went in.

There were several guys at the bar, and a few couples sitting at tables. All eyes were on us as we walked in. We order drinks and nervously chat. After a bit, one of the guys at the bar walks over and asks me to dance. Umm, thanks, but I'm not much of a dancer. Okay, so he retreats back to the bar. But he comes back after awhile, come on, dance with me... well, why don't you dance with my friend. Okay, so they get on the dance floor and shake their booties. Then he comes back again...please dance with me...oh, okay...so we get on the floor, I wiggle my tush a bit, half way through the number he realizes I really am a lousy dancer and politely escorts me back to our table. No body bothered us after that. They probably figured we were lesbians."

Mitzi

[marny]

Dancing is fun! But it would have to be another girl for me.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

1. Would you do it
If it were at a RenFaire, YES and I have many many times, but its a much more controlled environment than say a nightclub where I would never do so. Too many creeps getting the wrong ideas when you start off this way.

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

"No thank you, my boyfriend gets REALLY jealous"

3. How far would you go if you did.

No slow dancing or anything involving touch.

That about sums it up for me

*hugs*

Zarabeth

[sterling12]

It is two to five minutes out of your life....not a big deal. Virtually all of the clubs I go into these days, your not going to have to do a slow dance, or even get touched!

You will probably be dancing "free-style," and aside from feeling "like a hamster in a blender," (Cause', that's how you will look it's not likely your going to run into any problems.

Take it as a compliment, and when your deciding; try to remember how it felt for your male-self asking a female to dance. Rejection, no matter how nicely put, really hurts!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[CD Susan]

I do not dance with anyone under any circumstances. I just do not like dancing. I usually avoid places where people dance to avoid a situation like this.

[Deidra Cowen]

1. Would you do it
I have danced with guys a bunch...usually at gay clubs but also at some fetish bondage type parties like Skin Too.



2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.
Ok where I don't dance with guys...at Straight Clubs! Thats trouble. I one time went down to Johnnys Hideaway here in Atlanta with 2 other Tgirls and a GG. Its the meat market singles bar for the over 40s crowd. Four guys came up during the night and asked me to dance...and guys hit on my Tgirl friends too. I politely told the guys I was a tranny and three of them had totally shocked looks and all but ran! One guy looked at me said "you are prettier than the real women here!" No joke he said that...made my night! I know that statement drives some crazy here but he said it not me!!! By the way I was really thin and had it going at that time...right now I would not fool anyone gotta diet again! For me being blendable (not passable you will notice) is a razor thin deal. Gotta have my weight, makeup, hairdo, cloths just perfect to pull it off.

3. How far would you go if you did.
If the guy is sweet and nice I have been known to.... LOL never mind this is a nice little forum no need to go into all that.

[LaurenRenee]

1. Would you do it

Yes, though I admit I would be nervous at first. It is one of my dreams though to have this happen to me.

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

If I were to turn him down I would just gently decline his sweet offer.

3. How far would you go if you did.

That all depends on how we hit it off on the dance floor. but... giggle

[Sheila]

I as a GG would say if you can do it in front of your partner (if you are in a relatiionship) then fine ,if not then there is obviously a problem just my 2 cents

[tamarav]

[SIZE=4]OK, how many of you in male mode ask a strange woman to dance? Not many from the sounds of your replies. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]It is a dance, not a coupling on the dance floor. It is a social thing, which can lead to other things if YOU let it. The woman is in charge. In this scenario you are the woman. You keep the attacks at an acceptable level. When they cross that point you pull back, the guy is rejected and he goes on with his life. It ends there, if you are careful.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Learn to dance as a woman. The feeling is unbelieveable and the fun is indescribeable. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]I regularly dance alone and when asked will dance with most partners, these are generally disco-type dances where people don't even touch each other. For slow dances I generally decline simply because there are no guys that I feel comfortable with squeezing me for an entire dance. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]In one place there is a guy that likes to slow dance or some of the other ballroom dances and once asked me if I "Tango". He is the nicest guy and I had danced a few swing dances with before. I said yes, I do Tango and we were the only ones on the floor throughout the entire dance. Talk about conspicious! Think of Zorro and Selma Hayak. (If you haven't seen that dance, you should! Rent the movie) [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Now when I walk into that club the waitstaff turns to other customers and tells them "Oh, this is the Tango dancer, I hope Ronald comes in tonight to dance with her". Not, Oh thats the crossdresser that comes in all the time. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Dance, it is fun, great exercise and you are in charge. Make friends with the bouncers and wait staff and ask for help if you need it. I have asked for help 3 times in 20 years of being out.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Dance, it's fun![/SIZE]
[SIZE=4][/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Tami[/SIZE]

[Annaliese]

I am not gay but I have been in that position before, and I dance, when I am ask, been ask to go home with them I declined saying I was only interested in dancing, when ask for my phone number I again told them I am only interested in dancing. When I go out dancing I am out for fun and to have a great time. I do not drink so think cant get out of hand I can keep thing in my control.

Annaliese

[Danielle1960]

I'd be inclined to dance. After all it is quite a compliment. No one says or should expect that because you dance with them and or talk with them that you intend to do more. If it is a public place, have fun.
You can let him down that you boy or girlfriend is expecting you and and you can leave.

[Daphne Renee]

I probably would not dance. I cant really dance anyhow. I can a little on slow songs.

to let him down. I think I would just say no thank you.

If I did. No more than 1 song most likely.

[mikecd999]

1. Would you do it

Like almost everyone else here, it would depend on where I was at. Some bars, no way. Some places I have been no problem and I have.

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

"No thank you, my wife gets REALLY jealous"

3. How far would you go if you did.

Slow dancing would be ok depending again on who he is or what he looks like. And any touching would also just depend on the guy and situation. Some of my best memories have been pitching for the other team after starting off dancing with them

That about sums it up for me

[DonnaT]

I'd dance if I could dance, but can't dance. And that'd be as far as anything went.

[EveMarie]

Depending on his looks, I'd go for a cuty.

Let him down, girl, if I can pass that well in the first place, I wouldn't think of spoiling his moment!

So I guess I'd go as far as he wanted, as long as he knew what he was in for

[Paulette]

I dance and make sure that he leads after I make sure he understands who is dancing with as I do not want some guy who's friends have set him to get hurt. Most of the time it has been at a gay friendly club and everyone has been very nice. I now have more respect for women when slow dancing as it critical for the male to lead so that I can follow. Like Tami says it a dance not a coupling and so most have been fun.

[jennCD]

Heck, I can't even dance in my guy shoes, let alone something with a heel! LOL



jenn

[Sally24]

As others have said, unless it's a country club or a retro place, you will not be slow dancing. I dance with pretty much whoever asks. It's fun, good exercise, and good practice. You get a good chance to exercise those hips and get a better feel for your body. I mean, where else can you shake everything you've got, stare at the moves of the other women dancers, and not get in trouble. lol

I've danced with one gay guy at a club. He approached me and I sort of said "let's dance". Other than that people come and go on the dance floor. We don't really pair up, it's more a group thing with people mimicing each others moves for a time. It's one of my great joys in CDing and I wouldn't give it up for anything! Just wish the knees were a little younger.