[SIZE=4]I regularly work with clients that are seeking to upgrade their skills at crossdressing, some are very advanced while others are just sticking their toes out of the closet.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]My most commonly uttered advice to all the MtF CDs that I have worked with, is to simply act like a woman. when you are dressed, the biggest giveaway is your behaviour. If you act like a victim and expect to get picked out as a man in a dress, then you will. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]On many of my transformation forays I escort my clients to a local club to get some practice just sitting and acting like a woman. All of the wait staff knows me and give me feedback on my next visit, they feel that they can help. Most of the time their feedback is invaluable. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]For example, I took a MtF CD to this club and we sat for about 2 hours talking and drinking soda and I danced a few times and we left. I almost had to carry my client out, she was so nervous she could hardly walk.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Another MtF CD went with me to the same club, we sat and laughed and looked at other people and she even danced a couple of times with me (first time ever dancing, in male or female mode, she did great, no one cares how you dance!!)[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]A comparison by the wait staff and my observations was the the second person I came in with was more relaxed (a very tough thing to do when first out) and actually acted like a woman, smiling and moving naturally. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]The first client was quiet (which is fine) but kept her head down, never made eye contact with anyone but me, and acted so nervous that she attracted more attention than she should have. She appeared to be a victim just waiting to be pounced upon. I held her hand and talked constantly to her to re-assure her and never pushed her into dancing, or trying to dance. She stood out for the wrong reasons, her dress, makeup, hair and appearance was perfect, it was the person inside that "outed" her.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]For both of these clients, it was their very first time out in public. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]I wrote an article years ago after an ETVC meeting in San Francisco when we were addressed by a TS Psychiatrist from a local hospital. She pointed out the same thing, being a victim makes you more of a target than your dress. The article has been updated over the years and is available on my web site or by clicking on the link http://www.apparentlyfemale.com/Tami%20stuff/HTM%20files/attitude.htm[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]You can pass very successfully if you want to, just like many women that do not appear to be very feminine. It is all in your behaviour and how you are perceived by others. Don't be a victim and let others rule how you feel.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Of course I am talking about appearing in the same mode of dress as everyone else, 7 in heels and a full body latex suit don't blend in most places. Dressed like the majority of women in a crowd, acting like most weomen in the same crowd, will generally only get you noticed for your positives. Smiling, moving with a practiced move, handling your purse to get money out, looking people in the eye, and so on. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]I also work with FtM clients and believe it or not, they act just the same. We are all alike in that respect. Once you calm down, blend in, and act like everyone else, you are passing. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Sermon over,[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Tami[/SIZE]