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  • purely a fetishistic one based on particular items of womens clothing?

    17 7.66%
  • purely sexual - you get a kick from it

    34 15.32%
  • Sometimes sexual, but not always

    84 37.84%
  • Not at all sexual

    12 5.41%
  • Because you feel womens clothes better express part of your personality

    98 44.14%
  • because you feel you are female

    48 21.62%
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    Transgender or fetish?

    After giving it a lot of thought, and doing a lot of reading, I'm not sure 'Crossdresser Forum' describes this place appropriately. It seems to me that a significant proportion of people would like to present as female 24/7 or actually become female. I imagine this aspect isn't driven by anything sexual.

    When I started CDing, the reasons were primarily sexual - or at least when I was old enough to be able to experience sexual feelings it was! When I experienced my first orgasm, I was wearing patent stiletto knee boots!

    However, these days, whilst there is often still a sexual aspect to it, it doesn't always involve anything sexual. I frequently dress just because I like the way I feel. I'm wondering what the spectrum of experience here is?
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    The spectrum of gender identity is as varied as the electromagnetic spectrum; that is, there are as many expressions of gender as there are different waveforms - infinite

    Indeed, the expressions are so diverse that the term "gender" as applied to human identity is losing its meaning entirely. Much like race, in fact. For me, there is H. sapiens. Every individual is a subtle variation on that theme.

    Still, people love to talk about these issues as if there is some sort of deeper meaning behind it all

    As for my crossdressing, I do this today as a form of artistic expression. There is no sexual component.
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    I've always found women's fashion far more interesting than men's. It's such a gas to be able to explore it in a personal way. I'd love to be a fashion designer, but it's such a tough field to get into, and at my age....So I do the next best thing.

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    For me dressing is a form of expression as well as stress relief with out it being of a sexual nature.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andrea M. Forbes View Post
    The spectrum of gender identity is as varied as the electromagnetic spectrum <snip> - infinite
    Well, not quite. The EM spectrum terminates at one end at DC and the other end (currently) at cosmic rays (being pedantic)

    Quote Originally Posted by Andrea M. Forbes View Post
    Still, people love to talk about these issues as if there is some sort of deeper meaning behind it all
    Not really my intention. Just being nosey as to who does what for which reason - broadly speaking.

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    Um...one from column A...one from column B...one from column C...etc...

    All these elements (motivations?) have appeared in each of us, I'm thinkin'.

    And for some it's not a matter of a progression from one to the other over time.

    'Some times ya feel like a nut...'n sometimes ya don't!'

    All are valid, btw!

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    I do it because I love being a girl!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by deja true View Post
    Um...one from column A...one from column B...one from column C...etc...
    Thats why I left it multi-choice - knock yourself out!

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    back in my teens it was more of a sexual release but today it is a way of expressing my personality. Keli

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vicki65 View Post
    Thats why I left it multi-choice - knock yourself out!

    I looked at the thread title and thought 'why can't we do both?'

    Then I looked at the options and could, at various times, have ticked at least five..

    Many of us are fluid - and why shouldn't we be?
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    There's not much doubt in my mind as to why. I'm a woman, pure and simple. I just hope it becomes a full time proposition in the near future.
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    Just like Keli-H, when I was in my teens, my dressing was more in the form of 'using' items of femanine apparal as an addition to my teen sexual urges etc. Although even then, I soon found myself drawn strongly to wearing (for play) rather than just 'using'. A change took place when I was in my early 20's, and I came to realise that I felt somehow 'different' when partially or fully dressed en-fem and emersing myself in my fem alta-ego. As I explored more, I became aware that I did indeed feel more at home, natural and relaxed when in my girly persona. So for me I guess it started as purely sexual, but became more of an expression of my inner feelings. I'm not unhappy or troubled when masculine, but feel so much more at ease when en-fem and would if able, spend more time as 'Kelly' that as my male self.

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    I started out wearing lingerie and other "sexy" female clothes as a sexual thing, progressed to putting on lipstick, bought a dress, and then about 15 years ago had a makeover at Carla's in San Jose. When I first saw myself it was like a bright light coming on. I had finally found Carol. Since my wife went through this progression with me we have found some balance but I think now I 'm about 50/50 sexual/expressing a side of myself.

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    Well this was easy enough for me to answer, since I am transitioning!

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    I feel deep inside I am female. Always have and always will. I really don't know how else to feel. I love who I have become.

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    Transgender or fetish?

    I just like the look and feel of womens clothes. I like the feel of the clothes against my skin. The thightness of the gridle to shape my body as close as possible to the female shape. And for a few hours to feel feminent. I guess a little of both. does that make sense?

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    With me it's more of a TG thing, rather than fetish. But I'll admit that some of the fetish clothing I see is fairly erotic and appealing to me. Overall, though, my crossdressing is for expressing a big part of my personality that is decidedly female. It's a conduit for that part of me that needs to express itself in a feminine manner. When I look in a mirror while dressed, I like to see myself as myself, only female.

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    I don't think anyone can say that crossdressing is anything but sexual, for what ever reason we do, it it conects with sexualality.

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    Quote Originally Posted by prissy101 View Post
    I don't think anyone can say that crossdressing is anything but sexual, for what ever reason we do, it it conects with sexualality.
    aboslultly ! cross what ? sexual perceived bounderys of clothing and manuerizums....wellll that last part might be a stretch . if the clothes say female..and femals desire males ( most of the time ) that road that splits inthe woods makes all the difference.
    for me its a imaginary fixation on the pinacal of female forms the interface of her skin with her amazingly tight form fitting clothes....
    I fear she has clue to how nice they feel and fit. and if she does ..why wont she share ?

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    I too am with Kelli and Lisalotte.

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    Yeah, I am in no. 1!!! It is still kind of a fetish for me. I have tried on other things, and just don't care for them. Its either frilly stuff or drab for me.

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    The only answer I really liked was "Because you feel womens clothes better express part of your personality," but that could apply to most people here (and I guess that's why it's the #1 answer so far).

    I would call myself transgendered, but I'm still not comfortable saying that I dress "because I'm female." I just don't feel right saying "I'm female" when I present as male during the week.

    Even if I got SRS, I doubt I'd say I was female. I'm transsexual, and "female" doesn't tell the whole story anymore than "male" does. I'd rather be female. I wish I had been born female. But no matter what I wear or how many hormones I take, I have male attributes, too.

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    For me, the two answers "womens clothes better express part of my personality" and "sometimes sexual" both accurately describe my reason for crossdressing. I started at age 7 when dressing as a girl very much resonated with my being. Later at puberty, my male self also found it beautifully erotic. Through the years, I find that my need for expressing the femme part of myself has much more to do with being who I am, than just having erotic feelings.
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    As for me I'm in a state of flux, from confusion about what I was doing at such an early age, and yeah the pleasure I derived from that. On to dressing more and realizing how much more I enjoyed feeling feminine, pleasure became secondary, sensuality, the look and presentability became more important, and of course shopping. Then to the strong realization that the reason I do this is that I'm TG, feel that I should have been born that way, and regret that things did not turn out that way.

    So the three that fit that shift in my mental faculties, at least, whats left of them would apply.

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    Not at all sexual
    Because you feel womens clothes better express part of your personality

    I guess those two would best describe me. Like some of the other girls mentioned here, it was a sexual thing when I was younger. Now it's just part of who I am.

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