This thread is kind of inspired by another thread, and by a tendency I see on this board, that is a general aversion to labels. I suppose that I can understand this to some degree, as most people who don't like labels are offended by the labels that they are given. This is especially true with gender. Being given any label at all reminds some people that they aren't what they'd like to be. True, there are some things that no modern label applies to, but if a label is given it's not necessarily a bad thing. But have you noticed that one ever rejects a positive label?. If someone approached you and said "I'm sorry to bother you, but I just had to tell you that you are a paragon, a vision of beauty and femininity unparalleled by most of the civilized world." would you turn to this person (who I picture wearing a tuxedo and having a thin mustache for some reason) and say, "Don't you label me!" Probably not. I often hear people ask "Why must we label everything?" Here's why:
Imagine that you are climbing a rocky mountain. In order to do that you need crevices and footholds. Without them, (lets say it's some weird rectangle-shaped mountain with sheer surfaces) you would fail to climb and mostly likely you wouldn't even try.
It's the same thing you see, labels are our footholds when climbing the mountain of understanding. By asking someone not to label you, you are asking them not to define you and therefore not to try to understand you. Even if their initial label is incorrect it's a point of reference to work with. For example, how many transgendered people were alone and in despair, thinking that they were the only one with these identity issues until they discovered the internet and saw the term "Gender Dysphoria?" This label led them to see that they were not alone and even if it didn't describe them fully, it was a starting point from which they could learn more.
Labels are like fire. Fire as a tool is quite useful, the backbone of civilization. That tool can be harnessed for less then admirable purposes, (Arson, Witch Hunts, my uncle's nasty-ass fried chicken) but that doesn't make fire bad. If we don't like a label we're given, we can request a different one that we're more comfortable with or we can help by setting an example and changing the context, or what it means to be a (insert label here.) I had more to say, but its 1:05 a.m. and I have to work tomorrow.
Take care!