I have this urge now to go out in public fully dressed. I have the clothes and make up sorted now (don't have a wig so would style my own short hair?)
Any advice or pointers on doing this?
Thanks girls! x
I have this urge now to go out in public fully dressed. I have the clothes and make up sorted now (don't have a wig so would style my own short hair?)
Any advice or pointers on doing this?
Thanks girls! x
Kelly, the first time is soooooooo exciting as well as upseting.
The First time I went out it was to a Strip Club.
I wore my pretty clothes underneath. One of the girls came over and started rubbing my chest and back.
She found I was wearing a bra and Girdle, stockings etc.
She did do my makeup and helped me with a wig.
So be calm, it may be the Best outing you ever had,
Love
Janice
Kelly, I don't know if you're planning to do this alone or in a group. If you have the intestinal fortitude to go solo your first time out definitely go for it. I had to go with a group the first few times and the other girls are an immense help when/if you get a case of the vapors. If you have the least bit of trepidation about this seek out a group in your area for your first time or two. You won't regret it.
and good luck!
Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder.
You'll never, never know if you never, never go.
just keep your cool and you will be ok out there
Yeah... SMILE!!
i dunno not much desire to go out and test the waters. i would like to get better first and figure out how to deal with the voice if i have to talk.
Get yourself reasonably comfortable with your look, first - maybe practice moving in front of a video camera, so you get an idea of how you will come across to others?
But don't expect perfection, or you'll never get out. Where would you like to go?
Nicki
[SIZE="1"]Moi?[/SIZE]
Hello Kelly!
The hardest part for me when I first went out was getting out of the car. Choose a place around where you live that is going to be accepting of you no matter how you look. I went to a gay bar that caters to transexuals because I knew nothing about makeup, wigs or much of anything except that I wanted to wear lady's clothes out. I loved the look. I was treated well, taken under several CD's wings and told where to go for wigs and other clothes. Here I was in a mini skirt, forms, bra, nylons and great heels.......no wig, makeup or style. A true man in a dress. I was accepted (felt sorry for) and given direction. Short story, go to a place where you will be accepted and have a great time!
Charlie
just relax have fun enjoy your time out. don't move too fast act like you belong oh did i say relax.... have fun
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
Did I see what I thought I saw, in those hockey penalties? I grew up in Illinois, and was a Blackhawk fan. I heard of cross checking , but never a penalty for cross dressing! Karrren!
First time out can be exhilarating and traumatic. I would give myself every advantage possible. If a wig would help you to cope better, get yourself down to the el-cheapo wigstore downtown and pick up something that will make you feel complete.
Trust me, wigstores are so used to seeing guys buying wigs I would doubt that it would even elicit a thought. Just don't go crazy with a "giant drag queen style." It's not going to help your composure if you look in the mirror and see one of The Supreme's!
By the way, have fun! You only get one "first time." You'll probably be in such a state it will seem like time compresses, and all too quickly it will be time for Cinderella to head on home. Try to absorb as much of the experience as you can. We are all pulling for you.
Peace and Love, Joanie
For me, the hardest part of going out was just walking through my front door. After that initial rush of emotion... eveything else was incredibly easy. Just take your time, choose your clothing to fit your outing, and have fun!
*hugs*
Zarabeth
(Formerly known everywhere as Lady Zarabeth
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
Yeah... SMILE!!, cuz after all, it's about having fun. Good luck!
"Salene"
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Hold your head up, your shoulders back, dress to blend in, and SMILE. If you act like you belong, most people will accept you as you are.
Fulltime girl on the inside.
Lipstick=confidence
[SIZE=4]Holly[/SIZE]
You now have the best time to go out dressed. Now everyone is so concerned with their own shopping, they won't be paying attention to you. Get dressed, do your makeup, to blend in, then grab the door knob, turn it and open the door and walk out. Head to a big mall, and go shopping or wndow shopping. But have fun at it. Also, pay attention to the other women in the mall, there are all sizes, shapes and level of dress. So unless you really try to stand out, you should be OK...BJ
You could also do what I did.
Once you find a place you want to visit do it in drab first so you can at least get the layout & feel for the place.
That should help get rid of some of the gitters when you decide to go back there dressed.
Wow! You are a very brave soul!
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"Sammy, really next time do try to make your point without being quite so abrasive." -RD
You are going to love your first time out. Just dress to blend in and even though you are nervous don't let it show. Act with confidence and you will do allright. Of course if you have a friend to go with you it will be easier. I started going out six months ago and now it is easier than I ever imagined it would be. Just go for it, you will not regret it.
My advice... get a wig at a wig shop. You want to look as good as possible on your first time because you will be scared to death and you probably don't want to be noticed too much. I found by taking digital photos from all angles, I could judge how well I did my makeup, if you look in the mirror, it is amazing what information your brain substitues for its own benefit.
I agree with Sally. If n ot from a wig shop (and that is the first choice) then check ebay. After that just relax
Great advice from all previous posts! Can only add always be SAFE, comfortable, and confident in yourself! The more often you get out and about - the more you will feel and enjoy your feminine side.
You can't expect not to be nervous - but pretend you're confident, and have a perfect right to be yourself (a transperson), and you will discover a very important truth - people believe you.
And when they believe, you start to really believe it, yourself..
Nicki
[SIZE="1"]Moi?[/SIZE]
One idea worth exploring - take a vacation to a TG/CD friendly city (such as SF) where no one knows you - and go for it.... I've done that, and had a great time once I got over my nervousness.
Best advice I got was "Chest out ; shoulders back and smile"
I did my first outing with a group which helped allot.
I met them in the lobby and that door was so heavy it was hard to open.
Most support groups can assign you a Big Sister if you like.
I also went to a TG event in a friendly place which made it much more fun. Walking back and forth I had to concentrate on details like voice and mannerisms but once there I got to relax and be me.
What part of the world are you in: maybe someone can help steer you in the right direction ?
I take an occasional foray to the mall ot other venue but really prefer the group setting of events. Its much more comfortable for me.
Cari
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