Has anyone found they they were unable to have erections unless they are dressed in womens clothing. Any suggestions, it is very limiting in having sex and most women don't want to have sex that way. I don't want to take viagra but will, but would like find another solution. Any ideas
Jennifer60
But, I lot of older guys AND some of the girls here, don't enjoy sex very often at all. I'm thrilled that my dressing seems to have restored my ancient sex life! Even if it's only with a woman in the mirror!
Women can fake it, guys can't! If you're turned on, it's not a secret! If you're not, that's no secret either! Unless u do other things your partner will enjoy! There's always other ways to enjoy sex besides intercourse.
Meanwhile, I believe u should enjoy what turns u on. Whether it's with a partner, or on your own! And turn ons seem to change over the years!
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U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Well, I would say I prefer it dressed, but that doesn't always work for the missus, you have to give and take if the girl is not inclined to prefer it.
Dressed is best. The wife prefer not and she is just as important.
Are you feeling guilt or embarrassment at being dressed? Just a little bit can put a whammy on things.
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Sounds like a fetish! Are you literally unable to be sexually excited at all unless you use female garments?
-b.
nude sex does not get me going , now if she or he and me are in something female and in high heels then i am there , for a while ,
Doesn't apply to me. I can enjoy it just as much when I'm not dressed. I don't need to be wearing anything girly to get aroused. I just need to be around my wife, then I swear I could cut glass with it .
kinda opposite here. I'm ok either way, a little old to cut glass, probably could put a dent in some play doh though.....My wife is the one who seems to do better when I'm dressed. Something I just have to live with I guess
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No problems...male plumbing works just fine in and out of womens clothes.
Though it does stop when I wear the gorilla costume. (ha ha ha ha)
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I find the women in the mirror "never" fakes itOriginally Posted by docrobbysherry
But, I lot of older guys AND some of the girls here, don't enjoy sex very often at all. I'm thrilled that my dressing seems to have restored my ancient sex life! Even if it's only with a woman in the mirror!
Women can fake it, guys can't!
Interestingly in my case the woman in the mirror was originally a sexual experiment in my early 20's due to bordom with normal masturbation , being totally rejected by the opposite sex left me with having to create a new pathway to sexual enjoyment.
The "so-called" normal community would label me as a sick individual if they found out , however the woman in the mirror was "not" my preferance , it was the best I could do under the curcumstances.
It was the "so-called" normal community that denied me the right to a normal sex life with a real woman at that time so I don't take full responsibility for my behaviour.
Now I've been married for 18 years and the sexual side of it has been gone for many years , old habbits resurface don't they
[SIZE=3]Merinda[/SIZE]
Way back when I first began to dress in my early teens, it was just the transitioning that got me all excited... it was such a magical experience, and still is! But these days, truth be told... it's become so much more than that. These days my mind needs to wonder to the possibilities of being with a man. I know many, if not most here are not leaning in this direction. But my transitionings are becoming quite strong, tugging at my desires to be a complete woman... it seems like such a natural progression, and I feel no shame in saying this. Only hope that someday I'll have the courage to act out my desire. But to answer this post's question directly, I need to be completely in fem persona and be passionately kissing a man within my fantasies to fully take things to the next level, as it were.
I know... likely too much information. Yes?
Robyn
When lost, alone, or blue I know I can always get through the day, for I've always another shade of lipstick to make things right!
I am aroused but cannot get hard enough to complete the act and climax. wndering if this is age or what and if anyone has any sugestins or solutions.
Jennifer60
Surely there is some middle ground for both of you on this issue.
When I was in my teens and early twentys, dressing always was and arrousal. However, as time passes, sex is no longer a key. Now the key is the joy, fulfillment, realization that I love to be dressed all the way.
JoAnne Wheeler
Hi Jenn, well for me as with all of us it was an exciting rush ,when I first started dressing. I was all dressed looking in the mirror and see this beautiful women looking at you, putting on Bright red Lipstick. Down went the panties and OH YEA. Now I have over come that and love the complete feel of being a women. I go out to clubs, bars, mingle and have a beautiful Girl friend that we are sisters . My problem and I am not complaning is that my GG loves me as a women she get so excited, she touchs me all over loves the feel of my ear rings, bra panties and stockings. She gushs all of that sweet liqued when I make love as a women would with oral play. Then she wants the man part of me , I have it made . All I can say is that I hope any one of you find a women as good as mine .
Well in the beginning as a teenager and walking down the streets in town and nobody knowing the difference was what it was all about. Now I get married and my wife and her sister would make a regular habit out of dressing me up and the 3 of us going out and doing things a women. But the truth is it was such a turn on for the wife as she never could wait until we got home and would do what ever she enjoyed knowing I couldn't say a word.
Fast track forward 45 years now and I dress everyday and it is no longer a turn on for either of us just our way of life.
But yes sex and CDing go hand and hand
Hello Jenifer!
It is funny, but after dressing for 2 or 3 days, it seems hard to get an erection at all. Sex is not the motivation for my dressing. It actually seems to kill my sex drive......all the way until I see a sexy lady (besides me in the mirror). Then the interest comes back. CD seems to do weird things to my psyche. I want to be perused in stead of perusing.
Charlie
99% of all sexual stimulation is located.....between the ears! As a last resort, so that you can "perform," your going to have to pretend with mental images.
Yeah, I know it's not being honest! But, a "failure to perform" is going to just cause bigger problems. The best solution? Learn to separate your two worlds. let your "male side" have the lead when involved in intimacy. Your also going to have to work on that plan to make it happen. Same sort of thing to get it accomplished.....working on "imagery!"
peace and Love, Joanie
Since my wife doesn't want to be involved in my dressing then sex while dressed isn't an option. I don't get too aroused just by being dressed either it just makes me feel relaxed and happy when i am dressed. Hugging the wife gets me aroused though!
I have the fantasy of having sex with my SO while dressed enfemme. However, this is likely only a dream since my SO has never seen me dressed.
The important point is that if the only way you can get stiff is wearing women's clothes then wear women's clothes! In the privacy of your bedroom, your SO should accept you (warts and all) just as you need to accept her. I wish we could be less hung up over bits of fabric!
Dressed works best but sometimes my wife wants "the man she married" so I have to leave the clothes in the closet. When those times come though, if I'm not super excited, I still have to do a little fantasizing to make sure she is satisfied. I always feel quite guilty if I can not satisfy her, dressed or not. I also often fantasize that both of us are dressed a certain way (fetish related) when we are making whoopi. That often gets me in the proper state of mind.
If clothes make the man, I must not be one.
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I've never had sex while dressed without anyone but myself. I'm not sure just how it would go at this time in my life, either. Sure, I think about it from time to time, but my wife would never acquiesce to it, so it's not something that I dwell on much.
Now, there have been times in all our live that while having sex, we need to divert our attentions elsewhere to, shall we say, stay interested in the moment. Hey, sometimes sex is better than at other times. We all know it. At such times, my thoughts often turn to crossdressing, and it often enhances my...umm....enthusiasm for the task at hand.
For a long time, sex was an almost integral part of my crossdressing experience, too. I have always found women's attire very stimulating, depending on the look and style and feel. I suspect that many, if not most of us are this way to one extent or another. This has changed a bit over the years. But still, I have never experienced sex with another while dressed in women's clothing.
So if I had your problem.....they'd call it "celibacy". Perhaps you need some counselling, if you feel that you cannot have sex without being dressed. You owe it to yourself to not have that anchor hanging around your neck.
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Being a handicapp person, I don't have a problem fighting off the ladies. They tend to go for the normal ones. I started wearing mom's clothes at an early age, and it stuck. I've only have 5 attemps at sex in my 35 years. I wonder if that still makes me a vargin? Dressing works for me on multiple levels and I'm fine with that. I've said in preveous posts that I'm not trying to pass. I just love the feeling being dressed. My doctor said my sex problem is all in my head. I didn't know I have a problem. Except for the lonelness from time to time, I think I'm happy.
Cary
Maybe it's my age also, but fantasizing is pretty much a necessity when I'm not dressed. Although she has never really admitted it, but my wife seems to prefer me dressed in lingerie. Also, I tend to like adding bondage to our love-making, either of us but preferably me! She usually goes along with this but she tends to like just the lingerie I wear without the ropes or cuffs.
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