My wife has been aware for many years that I crossdress but I haven't introduced her to the idea that I have a seperate online identity for "her". I have always presented myself as my male persona (whether dressed or not) so that it was easier to accept that it was still me. A couple of days ago I logged into my Kate account on facebook to see if I had any messages. I failed to notice that the "save login details" option was ticked. Oops!
The following day I am sat on the sofa watching TV when she suddenly asked "who is kate?". I was initially confused by the question as I've never introduced the alias to her and we happen to know several people called Kate. Baffled, I asked her what she was talking about. She explained that she went to log in to Facebook and someone called Kate's log in details were already saved there. I was suddenly lost for words or explaination. For want of a better reason, I quickly told her that I created the account ages ago to play a prank on a friend, and had simply logged in to see if I had any messages. She then just said "oh, ok" and continued watching TV.
I feel kind of silly for not 'fessing up, considering that I fully dress in front of her on a semi-regular basis. But I have always felt that by maintaining my male name and characteristics it reasured her that I was still her boyfriend / husband and not about to leave for Thailand to get a sex change! Its funny that even though shes seen me in makeup and a skirt that there is still a part of me trying to act "normal". Baby steps...
On a final note, have a wonderful Christmas everyone xxxxxx