Ladies,
I'm in desperate need of your advice.
I haven't been on the forum much lately. There are a multitude of reasons for this; some because I've been working on other projects, some because I've been stressed. But the main reason I haven't been around is the reason I'm coming to you all for help.
I've been making a lot of positive changes in my life. I've stopped 'coasting' through life and have rediscovered my thirst for knowledge. I've stopped complaining about the way things are around me and have been actively working to change things instead. My confidence has been growing by leaps and bounds.
However, as my confidence grows, Brandy diminishes. I'm starting to fear that I'm losing her. In the past she's only become a strong part of my life when I was going through hard times. Now I fear that I don't know how to keep her around when things are good.
Just a few weeks ago, I finally brought her to life fully for the first time. I got my first wig and breastforms; I just knew that finally seeing my physical appearance reflecting my inner feelings was going to be euphoric. At first, it was.
I quickly overcame my handicaps with makeup application (although I still have a long way to go); I don't even poke myself in the eye with the mascara brush anymore.
Unfortunately something changed. Now, when I dress, I don't see Brandy; I see a man failing miserably in his attempts to impersonate the artwork that is femininity. I know, deep down inside, that is one factor in my loss of desire to dress. But thats not it alone.
Just a few weeks ago, I told my wife that I wanted discuss with her the possibility of me transitioning. She loves Brandy so much, and I was happier being Brandy; it just made sense. But in the last 2 weeks, I've completely lost the desire to dress. The only reason I do it now is for my wife's sake; I can see the difference in her reactions to me as Brandy compared to the way she reacts to 'him'.
These last few months I've been happier as Brandy, my wife has been happier with Brandy, and my closest friends have enjoyed my company more as Brandy. I don't want her to be a part of me that I use only as a crutch to get through difficult times. At the same time, I don't want to give up the improvements I'm making elsewhere in my life. What do I do?
Confused and a little scared,
Brandy Marie Devereaux