Dating Men

[Sandra Jim]

Where so much of me is Female , I have always had a deep desire to be fully accepted and loved as a women . I am very Straight Male looking and acting . But inside I am a women who loves everything about it . I love to shop and do housework fully dressed . So before I married 20 years ago I had the wonderful experience of being with men fully dressed as a women . Having a man carress me in my stockings and bra was very exciting . I felt like a woman and not a man having sex with a man . I am married today to a GG who does not fully accept me as a CD . Even though I list myself as a BI CD , my BI days are long long over . But it was great fun being treated like a woman .

[Barbaraheels]

I'm no expert but I think its only natural for crossdressers to have those urges and thoughts when dressed. I have thought about it for years and I think it may be a fun experience. However if it ever came down to it I probably wouldn't do it. I have always managed to seperate my sex life and crossdressing.

[MarciManseau]

love being a sexy woman with a man on a date and sometimes even more. I have spent the night with men dressed teh entire time and have loved every minute.

I'm sure the men enjoyed it too, Doris. You're hot

Smoochies, Marci

[Tess]

If I were out of the closet I'd do it in a heart beat.

[Traci_Ann CD]

I wouldn't date a man...but I sure would consider getting hot and heavy (and whatever else we could think of) with a sexy fellow CD'er.

You can bank on that baby.

[Annesah]

Depends on depends. Sure, some guys are pigs. I know, but don't associate with, the many I know. I have related with the good guys and have had a positive experience. Kind, loving, gentle, appreciative. This is good! If you are inclined, go for it. I don't think you will be disapointed. Be selective and safe.

[Brandy Michelle]

Thanks girls for you honest comments. I wanted information from other girls as how they feel about dating men while dressed. The reason, I have dated a man for a little while now. It all started when I dediced to bring myself out the first time. You have to take into consideration I have lived in the house for a long time and have spent most of the time dressed. My feelings on passing is 95 percent on attitude and 5 percent on looks. Well, I was ready. I went to a nightclub, in another town, by myself. When I entered the club, I looked around and found a table away for the rest of the crowd. After awhile I noticed a nice look man in a great looking suit enter the club and was talking with the other guys at the bar. He started looking around and noticed me and walked to my table and asked if he could join me. I said, sure. We made small talk while he was sitting together, and for some reason to even this day I do not know why I said this I told him I was a "Crossdresser/Transgenered." I then asumed he would just say "nice talking with you see you later" but he kept sitting with me. To make a long story short, a slow song was being played by the band and he asked me if I would like to dance.

When he unseated me and lead me by the hand to the dance floor and put his arms around me and pulled me into his body, I just melted. We danced and right before the song ended he said "I will have to admit you really feel like a girl." I told him thank you, and he escorted me back to the table. So now is the time for him to say thank you for the dance and leave. But, he sat back down with me. Sorry girls, I am trying to hurry. While we were finishing our drinks, he asked me if he could see me again and all I could get out of my mouth was "OK."

I was just wondering if any other girls ever dated or would date men. Personally I love it. I failed to mention I am not married now nor do I have a SO.

Thanks girls for your help.

This was just the short hurried verison of my dating life there is alot more.

[Tina P Hose]

In a perfect world, I would have a button that I could press. ( i suppose it would be my belly button) I would then transform ME minus the beer belly, and I would become the woman I want to be. I would wear my pantyhose with a short skirt and dance the night away with another cd or a woman. Men are too much like me.... .belching, stinky farts, hair in the wrong places, stupidity, self importance, drunks, no it all's...and all that.


In reality if I met another cd...maybe.

[jessica19cd]

I've never dated a man. But I have fooled around with a couple of them. It's true when I'm dressed I can't help but feel a little bit of attraction to guys. But I don't feel anything for guys when in drab. Getting back to fooling around, i've never dated them but I have gone all the way with them. Dating requires a more permanent state of femininity. Has anyone else done something like this?

[Intertwined]

Nope, not intersted in men.

I have always considered myself a Male lesbian when dressed, can I say that word? too late I just did.

A cartoon on a T-shirt comes to mind, I hope this Image works.

[Rikki1]

To be honest I would have to say yes I would, but then you have to understand that I am really a woman stuck in this ugly mans body.
So it is natural for me to want a man. Being married is the tough part!
Before anyone asks, yes I would go all the way and have the operation, but love my wife and will have to be happy as a CD.
I make an ugly girl, but I am still a girl...WOOT

[roogby]

i am a biological female but i tend to be very androgynous - i consider myself an ftm but i am not strictly masculine...more a very feminine boy, or a tomboy, something like that...

when i see cders, it makes my heart clench, i know how hard they try to look beautiful, and they look absolutely stunning...

i am not generally attracted to girly girls, but when i see a cder, i see a beautiful woman who takes her time to look gorgeous; it makes me want to adore her and make her feel like a lady.

i know it's not exactly on topic but i thought it was slightly relevant. i think a girl should be treated with respect and every girl should feel beautiful, gg or not.

[helenr]

Interesting question, interesting replies. I side with Eva. I personally feel it is really superficial what is between the legs,versus between the ears. We all crave acceptance, don't we? Frankly, aside from fantasy -which I too indulge in-how many GGs really are attracted to us when we are enfemme? I would think it would be around 5%.Now, if you have a loving partner, that is different-someone who is looking past our outer appearance.
I am(sort of ) not ashamed that I have had 'dalliances' with like minded crossdressers where seems like two women together. I naturally now feel this was wrong, but at the time I wanted some acceptance as who I am
. I have seen some super pretty examples on this group of very attractive individuals so I can envision someone straying.
Being accepted is what is the real trigger for many, I feel.
Now, it is different for me as spiro has zapped my interest so I don't have any wanton desire and , more importantly than ever, I can't betray my wife who is standing with me as I deal with radiation and cancer. Nothing else is important enough to betray her. Of course, I have serious guilt over past 'transgressions' ,but I have guilt for 55 years of crossdressing too.

[Sedona]

Nah, not my thing at all, but go for it if it's yours.

[Danielle Hyatt]

I said it befor and I'll say it agin No d?m way

[prene]

I think I reply to this question whenever it's asked to see what my own answer is. I never have before, but as I envision it in my head, yes. But it's a sexual thing, more about how it would make me feel and less about actual attraction.....

I agree with Valenstein.
I have though about it but only in what it would feel like to fully transform/change into a female. It is more of a curosity of what sexual sensations/feelings I am missing?

But I have no attraction to the male body at all.

[xdress2lady]

First; Since I'm married and love her to death, no I wouldn't date men. But if I was single again I would maybe consider it. The feelings and emotions from those here who have tried dating men make me think I would enjoy it too. But here is the issue I think everyone can relate. FINDING A GOOD MAN!! I would definitely need to be attracted first and since i am new at it, I would be asking myself "what the hell am i looking for in one". Yeeeeech! I'm staying married then this is confusing.

Second; Roogby?; quote " i think a girl should be treated with respect and every girl should feel beautiful, gg or not."
Can you change society to be like this? I want to live in yours instead!!
VOTE FOR HER LADIES!!!

hugs


Josie

[RachelDenise]

I have thought about this question many times myself. And I have tried to be honest with myself. And the surprising answer is that it depends on the person, not the gender. I've come to realize that I'm not scared or intimidated by plumbing, so the person is what gets it going for me. Although I consider myself straight, I really don't think that I can keep that label and maintain my convictions. So I have decided to do away with labels and move forward. Yes I'm very much attracted to GG's (I guess my primary attraction) but I do think pre-ops and CD's are very attractive too. I would rate men as last but not totally out of the running, particularly if I was truly femme.

[michelle2b]

We choose to emulate the opposite sex, but tend to draw the line at a seemingly critical juncture.

I like the way you think


Regarding the original question, or set of questions -

When you get dressed and feel very fem have you ever wanted to date a man?

No.

Are there any girls that have ever dated a man, I mean the man came to you house and picked you up for your date

Yes.

They either came to my house (if I already knew them too well) or we met in a public place (if I knew them well enough to spend time with them). I do not go out with strangers or even just acquaintances.

I need to know enough about people and I have to like them as respectable and respectful friends before I will spend time with them. If they are attracted only to my body or if they are not doing something very meaningful in their own lives, I refuse right away. I do not give any importance to the men who objectify me (I don't even understand them, perhaps because they are not thinking with their brains).

I have had no sexual contact with any of the men before, during or after the dates. They wanted to do something nice for me or they just wanted my company, and they already knew what they were getting into when they asked me out. They had the best non-sexual time of their lives with me. I've been with them to movies, fashion shows, sports events, open air theaters, exhibitions, rock climbing, mini-golf, shopping for Halloween costumes for each other, wine tasting, dessert tasting, picnics, etc. I've also had candle-lit dinners, walks in the parks, dances, etc with them. In some cases, we talked for a few hours, from deeply intellectual stuff to the very superficial ones. It is not like there are dozens of such men, but rather that the same few men who asked me out multiple times and we had a great time together. From their perspective, I think it is like having a girl with them who enjoys things that they enjoy, except sexual stuff.

This evening, one of the men sent me an invitation for dinner at his place on Sunday because he is trying a new recipe and he says he knows I will enjoy it. We have been to each other's homes several times so far. He knows I am lesbian and he respects my boundaries. I feel safe. He actually works with the same employer as I do, but he did not know about this until recently, although I knew before I went out with him the very first time a year ago.

[sallyjones]

i read alot of these replies and if your not gay your not exactly straight either. i have had fantasies about being with a man for a long time but never gone there. i have had acouple of gf who would agree to switch roles with me even sexually. i love it and if you go as far as appearing female sometimes its nice to be treated as such.

[Carole Cross]

At this moment in my life I would say no, but as I start transitioning my views will probably change. When I feel comfortable going out as a woman I may start dating men but I would tell them my situation and take it from there.

[Karen1969DD]

This issue is relevant to my hubby and me. We are transitioning to a role reversed marriage, and lately during discussions he has expressed interest in dating men as part of his "training". I am trying to sort out my feelings on this. On the one hand, I think it would be good experience for him, on the other hand, I feel jealousy and fear of losing him in spite of the fact that he claims he has strict limits and would never do anything to harm our relationship.

[Nicki B]

Are there any girls that have ever dated a man, I mean the man came to you house and picked you up for your date?

Be wary of letting people know where you live, until you're very sure of them? Be safe - think like other women, they've learnt there are plenty of weirdo's out there?

*looks around and hides behind sofa*

[MarciManseau]

I've never dated a man. But I have fooled around with a couple of them. It's true when I'm dressed I can't help but feel a little bit of attraction to guys. But I don't feel anything for guys when in drab. Getting back to fooling around, i've never dated them but I have gone all the way with them. Dating requires a more permanent state of femininity. Has anyone else done something like this?

You're totally hot, so I'm sure you can have all the bfs you want. It's fun, isn't it? Girls are supposed to like men!

Smoochies, Marci

[cindym5_04]

Marci... you go around talking about how others are hot...have you looked in the mirror lately?? DAMN GIRL, you're smokin'!!