1) Yes - perhaps not by leaving your bra lying around as i did but in a 1000 different ways. an unguarded sentence, a mannerism, a speck of mascara, a photo, an unexpected return to the house, an unwanted tradesperson, finding your stash, talking to a friend - just the 6th sense that women have. Mine ain't stupid and she 'knew' before she knew and i suspect many here on this site are deluding themselves

2) No - not happy but honesty is the first bridge towards healing and understanding. She trys very hard but it is to her like the elephant in the wardrobe. we would both say that our relationship on balance is better than it wassw before because this hidden barrier is not between us

3) Yes - a positive. I expected her to do if she found out because that is the way i have been conditioned. we both love each other to bits, we've been together for a long time and dont want to throw it away - we have a son and dont believe that a wrecked relationship is good for him. So I have to compromise and make sacrifices but they are worth making. and hey ... good questions


mitch