I noticed how some of the girls on here were able to obtain an additional legal ID in their state with their femme name and photo on it, yet still have their male driver's license. I couldn't find if it's legal in my state to do that (Virginia...and probably not), so I did a "fake ID" search. There's a company called theidshop that sells realistic looking fake ID's for about $100. Obviously don't use that as your driver's license if you get pulled over, but maybe for going into a club is different...
The other thing was why not get an additional credit card sent to you with your femme name once you have an id? I might have to look further into it.
What I've done before is not worried about any of it and just used my regular male ID and credit cards for everything.
Just a thought.