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None of your business, Young Lady !!
I would say about 80-90% straight with Bi-Curious tendancies. ;-) I've a few male friends that know I dress, and at least one has been a bit on the flirty side with me. He's told me already that if I wanted to dress for a date with him, there'd be no objections.Said something along the lines of that old saying 'If it looks like a duck...'
I describe myself as pansexual.... in other words I am open to members of all sexual orientations or gender identities with mainly the personality being the factor
When dressed as a women I am interested in men. Having said that I guess I'm bi and loving being that way. I get twice the fun as most people.LOL
Gabrielle, you're a genius and nailed my own personal theories:Originally Posted by Gabrielle Hermosa
I'm a strait man, happily married. My wife thinks I'm handsome as a man, and can't keep her hands off me when I'm dressed as a woman.
I love women so much (perhaps too much) that I need to do more than just look at them - I like to see myself as one, dress like one, feel what it's like to be made up as one, etc.
I'm not even a smidgen gay or bi. If I woke up tomorrow morning as a real girl, I'd be a lipstick lesbian!
In terms of why are some crossdressers strait, some bi, and some gay? I think if you replace "crossdressers" with "people" in my last sentence, it spells out my personal theory on it. What does it matter that we like to dress and look like women? There are all kind of people in this world. Why would the crossdressing community be any less diverse than a community of people who happen to like peanut butter?
I've thought about whether or not I'd ever be interested in men, and the answer is a conclusive "NO!" I have zero issues with gay men, and find I have an issue with a gay person as often as a straight one, but being one of them just isn't for me. Well, except for those times when I just feel like being a one-man gay parade, but still, I'm not interested in men sexually at all. (These times are usually when I'm doing "Sweet Transvestite" for karaoke.)
Quite the opposite, in fact, I've often joked with friends (more seriously than I'd admit) that I'm a "lesbian in a man's body." Not only am I attracted to women, I've found that many of the ones I've dated or am otherwise attracted to later become lesbians, or at least bi-sexual. The woman I came out to about my crossdressing is now a lesbian, and we had a long distance relationship for several years before she had her epiphany in college.
It makes perfect sense that the urge to crossdress is completely separate from your sexuality. When crossdressing, it's often found that when first starting, it is out of a sexual thrill, but I think that comes mostly from the association men have with women's clothes, and in particular, lingerie. As time goes on, I have started to realize that not only is this OK (if not normal), it's a part of who I am and I want to expand that and bring it out more.
Thank god the east village is just a train ride away. Maybe this summer I'll make my public debut.
Oh, and hi everyone, I'm new here!
Kathryn, let get this straight (aw geez didn't mean that) you tend to turn women into lesbians?
i think each site has its own character and tends to skew such surveys a little. Some uk sites you are hard pressed to find someone who identifies solely as "straight". I guess you also tend to socially drift towrds your own in the real world too, not that you mean to, its just the way people are.
As for me, im gay all the way...i've only ever been sexually attracted to men, although the physical and emotional attraction took a little longer to develope.
I was once described as "curly" by a GG i knew.. not straight, not gay.
I am very proudly Bi, thanks!
Maura
OK when I am in the femme mode I am interested in just having fun- so sex necessarily. But if I do it is with a GG only. When I was younger and in my "cowby drab" days (Stetson, fringed jacket, gold tipped boots and shirt collars) I dated some professional F.Is and we had oral sex ONLY. I saw them as ladies, treated them accordingly and we went up to "first or second base" (how quaint is that?) No desuire whatsoever for thwe full on gay experience.
I guess I lived as a gurl through them vicariously.
A genuine (no mean head games) sweet and real looking CD or TS who acts like a true lady and does not get stoned or drunk still gets me going a bit. In addition I am always a true gentleman with them.
As a straight guy(?) I am not the least bit interested in men who look like men.
So what would you classify my desires as?
If they know me, I'm certain they consider me an alpha male, laser striaght, married with little kids, and cool with the hobby, wife knows, it's hard wired from the begining.
Actally, I personally find it odd how a "GAY" guy could be a crossdresser. Being suposedly sexually attracted to MEN rather than the female form. But it apparently happens quite a bit, enough so that the general stereotype of a CD is equated with "gay" in the minds of the "uneducated" public.
There is usually some degree of an erotic element in CD for us straight Crossdressers---ranging from the purely erotic or indirectly so via fetish connections, humiliation SM, etc. At the very least we find something "Special" about women that helps to drive our CDing.
I am puzzeled and curious as to why GAY guys might CD, just as you have a curiosity about CDing in us straight guys.----My only theory is that (transsexuals nonwithstanding) Something ELSE, of a non sexual/sexuality nature, such as personal identity play, taboo tripping, etc. might be the CD driving force in gay guys----just as these things may be involved with "non sexual" based CDing in Straight men.
Its the only thing that makes sense to me---but I suspect that that is NOT the answer. Perhaps as a gay CDer you might be able to explain us us straigts what CD means to yourself. --- I for one would be very interested in your answer.
Last edited by MarinaTwelve200; 01-16-2009 at 10:47 PM.
Straight as an arrow (although most arrows I have ever fired off have a slight bow in them some where along the line). Even married my gf of 6 years only to get kicked out when she figured out this "phase" wasn't a phase. Maybe if I was born a woman things would be diferent, who knows?
Ok, look, this really is the low down:
Most people, IMO, are bi, to some degree or another. It might be incredibly mild, but it is there. However, as a sort of psychological comfort, they put "walls" up so that they don't think about or even investigate it. By blocking it all out, there's really no question in their minds. They only know heterosexuality, regardless of what's deep, deep on the inside, so they are completely and utterly "heterosexual," to themselves.
Many of these people get into relationships. Many of those people enter these forums, with their gfs or wives being fully aware of them, even participating in here. Now, enter in the stereotype that crossdressing is done for homosexual reasons (aka to pick up guys). Forget the fact that most gays don't like it whatsoever, and the best way for someone to have a gay relationship is not being in drag, the stereotype still exist, probably because of the imprint of gender roles. Regardless, that makes GGs nervous. Nervous because, while the stereotype is illogical, it serves as a reminder to the hidden bisexuality of many people.
Those husbands (or boyfriends) of those wives (or girlfriends) in an effort to calm those worries always rush to emphatically remind their wives (by posting in the forum, whether consciously or subconsciously) of their fidelity by making a point about being 'straight', regardless if the wall has been looked beyond or not.
And, that's a good thing. I believe commitment is something that should be extremely serious, and even if someone is coming across some uninvestigated bisexuality through some sort of self-awareness, they should make every effort in their power to stay true to their commitments, regardless of that.
So, that is the bottom line why this is such a hot topic here is because this bisexual wall is realized, and it is very dangerous to commitment if the person realizing it does not have principles or willpower.
Finally, statistically speaking, you're going to find many more CDs being birth-gender "straight" than TS/TG people, since, well, there's just more "straight" people than gay people. If someone is TS/TG, they're the opposite gender in mind, so more will be oriented toward their same non-mind birth gender. It's really simple, if you think about it.
But, to give some logic for the assurance of the GGs here, remember that there are all sorts of fetishes - from leather, whips, chains, foods, you name it - and none of them have any association with orientation. So, if your man is a CD, why would a fetish for lacy clothes be any different than for leather?
Note: I am doing this in every intent to civilized and inoffensive. If it in any way doesn't do that, please contact me and I'll work to make it better. All I'm doing is assessing a question that comes up over and over again.
Last edited by Sophie_C; 01-17-2009 at 02:05 AM.
Straight. "It is what it is"
You nailed it! Lesbian or bi, it would seem... lol! And here's to that:Kathryn, let get this straight (aw geez didn't mean that) you tend to turn women into lesbians?
Isn't it quite interesting that the percentage polled that consider theirselves as heterosexual is quite a bit lower than what is usually reported on many crossdressing information sites? I always see anywhere from 80 - 90% of the crossdressing population to be said as being straight......
I'm single, straight and love who I am. Most of my close friends are female and I just seem to fit right in.
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a couple of comments.
First, some peoples sexuality is set in stone, others are a little more fluid and could go either way, depending on nurture influences and background. Im not saying the way you are brought up can make you gay, but it can allow you to be more open to the notion of alternative lifestyles. I for example had a very normal upbringing, but i became transvestite from a young age, way before puberty, so this had some inflence on the way i think and outlook on life.
you are absolutely right that gender identity does play some part, in my case at least. i dont consider myself a transexual, but i see myself as a male woman. There is nothing new about this, look back through history of various cultures and "we" have always been there.
look at it like this, you are familiar with butch femme lesbians, well, its pretty much the same thing for us gay trannys. my boyfriend is all man, typical male gender role, and i am male, but have the typically female gender role.
In somed ways its lifestyle choice...i had no choice about being transvestite, i just was one...but i did have a choice as to the degree i let it influence and dictate my life.
Bi ... though, like quite a few others it seems, the 'bi' urges only come when dressed.
I am faithful to my wife and have never strayed but through all the various threads and replies have often wondered about my sexual tendencies. As I have examined my growing feminine feelings and thoughts, I feel a yearning for intimacy and a closeness, with or without sex with another person. I think that I would describe myself as others have as a lesbian because I feel that other women have the same desire for intimacy that I want and we share that common bond. That being said, I think that if a male, as a crossdresser, or a male, as a male, made me feel that same way, I would be attracted to him as well.
No, I don't have plans to have an affair but rather to remain faithful to my wife but when I honestly search my soul about my sexual preferences, the jury is still out.
My wife says I'm queer!
I told her the lead post in this thread and she told me the response. BTW some of her friends call her "Tri"
I'm also a male lesbian, and I do watch some lesbian porn online, but whenever I go to the store and buy some women's clothes for myself, I tell myself "I'm so gay!" LOL
Straight and have a wonderful, understanding GF
I'm not out to fool the world, just my inner girl
Real men wear pink <3
G.K. Chesterton“Fairy Tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.”
Straight.
Osteph
Straight and undeviating ~ but in the back of my mind is the realisation that I am turned on by pictures of CDers and occasionally worry that if the opportunity existed I'd go for it. Because of my mature years [married, three grown up kids, two grandchildren] I envison taking an attractive young CDer out to dinner. Never have, never will; but the fantasy is lurking there. Now there is absolutely no desire to try it on a young man and trying in on a young GG would make me a DOM.......so does that make me even a tiny bit Bi?
I'm very incredibly straight. Why? First off, . . . eewwww (sorry, didn't mean to offend). Second, my wife would kill me.
Like others have said, I have no desire for that. I don't want to be a girl, I simply love dressing like one. The clothes are so much more interesting and fun! I am totally comfortable how I am. Inside, no matter how girly I am, I'm still a guy. In other words, lazy. If I were a girl, I'd have to do my makeup and hair every day. It would get old and less special, I believe. However, as a guy, I get to dress like this. It's a treat.
Kathi
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