Girls, I have always had a hard time accepting my desire to dress. Stuffed it in the closet for years. Suffered quietly. Suffered loudly. Purged. Sought treatment. Briefly and furtively engaged in it. Felt guilty. Shoved it back in the closet. Desired it so hopelessly from afar. I'm sure most (if not all) of you have been there.

After decades of this yo-yoing misery I have to wonder how things would have been different if I could have simply embraced it and found a place for dressing in my life.

So tell me, for those who celebrate this lifestyle (and whom I admire so much), do you believe that your life is much better -- personally, professionally, health-wise, happiness-wise -- because you have handled it in an open and reasonable manner?

Have I wasted a lifetime by NOT being a self-accepting CD? I know (hope) it's not too late, but I have to find a reasonable solution and perhaps some happiness.