Crossdressing and Ended Marriages

[Tamara Croft]

My issue is mostly sex! I'm more interested in sex with Sherry, than my dates.

You know, I was joking on that other thread about what I said... but after reading this, maybe I was actually nearer to the truth!?!?!

Do I have to meet someone hotter than Sherry? I doubt I'll find a GG, in that case.

Words cannot describe right now what I think to that... ok maybe I do have a few, vain? I won't say the rest, they would all be I can't believe you think you and your souped up Halloween masks (you said they were, not my words) think you're hotter than any GG. How insulting... If you ever do find someone, I feel sorry for them, knowing that they are competing with a Halloween mask that thinks she's hot... really, get a clue

[Kate Simmons]

I honestly never wanted things to work out this way and tried my best to come to terms with the CDing with regard to my wife. My feelings for her have never changed even though we are now apart, partly due to the dressing but there are other factors as well. Since things did work out this way, I took advantage of the opportunity to get in touch with my feelings and work through them. I have amalgamated them into my overall self and I am comfortable either way and while I still have fun with the dressing, it is really a "nice to have" but not really necessary for me to be me.

I am somewhat hopeful that we can work things out and re-kindle our relationship. If that does not happen however and we do end up splitting for good I will not necessarily "fail" to being Salandra. If I ever found someone I cared for I would do what was necessary to have a good relationship because in all honesty my femme self is NOT and never will be a substitute for sharing my life with someone I truely love.

[Sheila]

My issue is mostly sex! I'm more interested in sex with Sherry, than my dates. Including one I slept with!
This is my problem, not theirs. Because they don't know I dress!

So, to answer your question: I HAVEN'T A CLUE!
I want someone to share my life with, but I also want great sex! Do I have to meet someone hotter than Sherry? I doubt I'll find a GG, in that case. Maybe Sherry and I will be stuck with each other from now on! Hope this helped?
RS
PS: My divorce had nothing to do with my dressing.

[SIZE="3"]Well give me a man in a dress any day over a male in a mask !!!![/SIZE]

[mylilsecret8]

My wife knows I wear panties but she dosn't like it. At first she said it was weird and if I wanted to do it then she didn't want to know about it. Then later she said it bothered her and wanted me to stop. I'd promise to do it to save our marriage but eventually would start buying panties again and every now and then she would catch me and be upset. It would be heaven if she supported me but I don't want to divorce and split up the family, even though I now know I could never give it up. She has no idea I sometimes wear dresses and skirts and I'm sure she certainly would divorce me if I did.

I used to think if we did divorce I would openly look for a GG who accepted my femme side but my experience has been very few GG accept it and those who do, mostly just tolerate it. I'm sure there really are GG who do, but I have never found any. Are there any GG's on here who find it interesting that guys dress femme?

[Nikki A.]

Being recently widowed and with two teens still at home, I have started to ponder what and where do I go from here.
My first priority is getting the kids off to college (one this year and the other two years later).
At this point I really don't feel that I need to have a SO or get involved, this may change down the road. However , if I do I will be upfront about dressing and if she has any hesitations about it then I don't think I would consider her as a long term relationship.
I don't particularly want to be alone but I don't want to hide anymore even more.

[Daintre]

I have been divorced now for over 20 years, at first my ex was accepting...grudgingly because we had moved into a very small town and we were our own best friends. When we returned to the big city, things changed rapidly, she found a sympathetic psychiatrist who told her that she would be best off divorcing me, I did see this witch once...my goodness ...what an opinionated person. My ex did kick me to the side of the road and outed me to family and friends...just trying for weekend visits was hell.

I never sought another partner strangely because I felt and still do that my ex was/is my soul mate. The funny thing here is that since the break up, my ex has educated herself on cross dressing and she understands more and accepts it now.....what a loss.

When I was younger the being alone was great, dress anytime and so on...today, being alone is just that, a lonely life, I wish, I truly do that there was a way out.

[MJ]

for me I'm done with drama.. should i get lucky and find a gg thats can accept me as i am then great I'll be happy . but i like my space , and well then there is the fear factor . staying single and unattached is probably a good idea

[skirting]

I was married for about 3 years and we were watching Aerosmiths Living on the Edge video. At the end there looks like a sexy shot of a woman putting on pantyhose and heels. Then you see it is the teenage boy from the video.

My wife (who had no idea at that point) looked over and asked 'did you ever do that growing up?' and I said yes.

Then she asked more hesitantly 'do you still do it?' and I said yes again and was literally shaking because I was so scared.

After the long talk and questions like 'are you gay' (no), she is fine with it. She's bought me things, I've done various levels of dressing around her. It's all good.

We're coming up on 20 years married now and I know I have THE GREATEST WIFE IN THE WORLD!

[charlie]

I'm 60, but quite not retired yet. But, I'm REAL close, and I have a kid still at home, part time. I closet dress and no one, except folks here, know I dress.

I'm dating now, and have dated the last couple years, since my divorce.
My issue is mostly sex! I'm more interested in sex with Sherry, than my dates. Including one I slept with!
This is my problem, not theirs. Because they don't know I dress!

So, to answer your question: I HAVEN'T A CLUE!
I want someone to share my life with, but I also want great sex! Do I have to meet someone hotter than Sherry? I doubt I'll find a GG, in that case. Maybe Sherry and I will be stuck with each other from now on! Hope this helped?
RS
PS: My divorce had nothing to do with my dressing.

I think the problem that the women you are dating have is that Sherry is a compilation of exactly what you want to see. Your dates are a compilation of who they are. They may like flat shoes where Sherry likes 5' plus heels. Sherry likes tight dresses, where your date likes jeans. It is a competition. One that they are bound to lose lots of time.

[Alaceann]

My SO caught me 2 yr's ago dressed and it was the same questions, are you gay? NO. She said I understand that it makes you feel better then nothing else was said. She has noticed sometimes that I have a nightie under my bathrobe and just said pull down your robe. She hasn't left or anything after 19 yr's together and she still talks about getting married in the next year when she retires. I think when she brings up marrage again I'll have to have a good talk about my dressing, and shaving of my beard which she likes.

[stormrider]

I have accepted the fact that Michelle will age gracefully alone. Not that I enjoy being single, in fact quite the contrary. I enjoyrd being married and taking care of my loved ones. I have just had to accept the fact that I can not be myself and be married, as most women will not accept my femmininity. As for men, well, so far I have not found that a relationship with a man(not that I have had one mind you) would bring me any more peace and purpose than I have right now. Men tend to be more selfish I have found.

Michelle

[Joni T]

My first wife didn't know about my dressing urges and I kept them in the closet. I knew I needed to tell my 2nd wife (to be) because I didn't want it in the closet any more. Fortunately her response was a positive one and we've had 21 years of wedded bliss. I don't know why she stays with me. She coulda' done better than me, she deserves better but we're together for better or (usually) worse. I like being married but if something were to happen to her and I wound up un attached, I'm convinced that I'd remain un attached. If I were single I'd definately dress more often, undoubtedly every day and I'd be seriously looking into growing my boobs a la Nature Day or something akin to it.
Anyway, just my $.02 worth.
Luv Ya'
Joni

[Tee]

well, i am most afraid when she is not happy about it...though she accepts it.
i guess the other parts of the relationship really keeps her feeling loved, happy and blessed that she tolerates and occasionally give me "treats".

i cannot really stand loneliness very well and i can imagine that if our marriage did not work out, i might be back into the dating game pretty fast.
but it would be really very tough to find some one like her.
she's really the angel in my heart.

there are many moments when i truly enjoy being the man for her.
meanwhile there are moments when she likes to be the man for me, like putting her hand over my shoulder, her thumb over mine when we hold hands.

[bluiezz]

My marriage broke up 4 years ago. My ex used my crossdressing as an excuse to cover up an affair. I told her I crossdressed before we got married and she acepted it and even made clothes for me. She phoned my mother and told her that she just came home and found me dressed and my mum told my sister. My mum was a bit old and could not cope with the news. Over time
she mellowed and my sis was very cool about it. I stopped crossdressing for about a year. I never thought I would ever trust a woman again. But lifes a funny thing. I have since remarried and my wife accepts my crossdressing. I do not do it so often but I have a wife who does not judge me for crossdressing. She loves me, all of me , warts and all.