Have you ever told somebody you're gay just to make them feel better even though you're not?
When I first started my ballet class I was the only guy in there and the women seemed put off by it. However once I said I was gay they were comfortable, it seems that being gay is more accepted than crossdressing. Even though in ballet wearing a leotard and tights is common even for men. They later found out I wasn't after we became friends and I told them why I did it to make them feel comfortable they now have alot of empathy for me as a crossdresser.