To make a long story short, we broke up months ago. Still talked a little bit here and there, but usually it would end up in disagreements. The main part of it is that when we were still together, I had expressed my interest in men. So, we broke up pretty soon after that even though we still had feelings for eachother.
Eventually we've both tried to go on with our lives. Unfortunately anytime she meets someone, she lets me know about it. I'd rather not know. But a couple of days ago via a IM chat it got ugly for the same reasons. I wasn't going to take it, and told her that I had been with other women. That set her off which is not right IMO because we're not together.
Next day, she sent me another few IM's basically telling me that men don't hit on me because I'm a big fat dude that dresses like a girl, and still looks like a man. And that i should just come out and be a guy and date gay men. All of this is uncalled for because I've never attacked her like that. She also says that all of the guys that she's shown my pictures to say that i look scarry, and that with Halloween coming up I will look perfect.
I have to admit that I really hurt my feelings. And she also threatened to expose me (out me). I told her that if being mean to me makes her happy, then to go ahead do what she feels she must do. I also said that I would hate for bad Kahrma to come her way because of this.
I'm getting to the point where I would like to come out, or at least not hide who I am. But I want to do that on my terms, not hers. This really put me in a funk yesterday, and decided to sleep it off.
Sisters, do you have any advice for me?
Thanks,
Monica.