Quote Originally Posted by ~Tamara~
Children can be very cruel. One comment can lead to another and that child could then become alienated throughout their school life. If I told our youngest daughter who is 11, that her dad is a CD and she then went on to tell her friends at school.... the outcome might not be pretty. Those children could then go on to tell their parents, those parents who might not know or understand what a crossdresser is, could then tell their children to keep away from our daughter and even start spreading malicious rumours throughout the school to other parents. What kind of school life would our daughter then have?? I wouldn't even consider telling her (unless it was vital) until I thought she was old enough to truely understand.

You have to look at the whole picture, not just the home life. You have to think about how this is going to affect the children, not just you. So when making a decision, think very carefully the consequences it could have on them. They might think it's a bit of fun painting daddies nails...... but that's all it is to a 9 and 10 year old, a bit of fun.

I told my eldest daughter when she was 16 and had left school. She took it pretty well and was at the age where she could understand what I was telling her. I don't think my 11 year old is quite ready to comprehend that her dad has fem feelings and dresses like a woman. She has 5 years of school ahead of her and that imho is enough to cope with.
Unless the reasoning was, one plans on dressing 24/7 and/or is having surgery, I think it best to wait until children are older. There really is so much stress for teens and pre-teens to deal with as it is, I think it would be unfair to add more stress to their lives, just to be able to dress whenever. Seems a bit selfish, unless as I said, one plans on living as a woman fulltime.