Words from the Closet Queen:
The floodgates are open and the waters are running wild. You cannot stop it...but, it may be good and irrigate the crops...or it just may flood and kill everything in its path.
If, (others may say, "When!") I got caught, I would look at it as a tremendous relief to finally have the person I loved know the internal struggle that has gone on inside me after all these years. It would be an opportunity to heal, grow... or drift apart.
In order for you to be fair to her which is the most important thing, I think you first need to be fair to yourself. Now that the cat is out of the bag, you need to ask yourself if you really want to be a woman some of the time, a lot of the time, or all of the time. If you think it's 'some of the time,' than what happens if/when you receive all the feminine adulation you crave? Would you then want more? And then more until your male side plays second fiddle?
If I were you, I would offer my wife a promise to go for counseling so that I could understand myself before expecting her to understand me. The underlying issue here is whether you are truly a CD or something more. You owe it to her and to yourself to find out.
