After a really good day doing one of my favorite guy things, I felt really happy, began to talk again to my wife about doing something to thaw the arctic freeze between us which has now been going on at least a year. Well, I know how communication can be so important, except we have communicated about this ad infinitum, and it seems to just make it worse.
So, it came down to the "you will have to change". I didn't take it any further, we did agree to be nicer to each other, well, ok. I know what change she wants, just like before we married, made me drive to the dumpster and pitch all my stuff. That was 20 yrs. ago.
All she knows about this is it wrong and she hates it. No way would she ever come here for knowledge, or talk to anyone who could help her put it in perspective. I am finally at a point where I am ready to pay a counselor to help me deal with the years of resentment I have brought upon myself, and the guilt, for the obvious pain I have dealt her. By the way, I am not out, do not really go out, she does not see it, she just knows. Any suggestions?