Thanks Sarah for your insightful questions and the responses the girls have given you. I appreciate your thoughts on all of this. Even though my partner and I have excellent communication it is important for me to be aware of some feelings that may go unexpressed by my SO. We don't live together at the moment and I am dressed 7 days a week, she knows this but her feelings could change when we get married and she is living 24/7with Laura. I also identify with Lorileah's last post, thanks, Lorileah.