Well Ricci, my story is very similar to yours. When i first told her she was totally turned off and didnt want to hear nothing about it. It took her about 2 years to tolerate it and be able to talk about it with me. She said it was cool if i did it but only if i did it when she wasnt home and not in front of her. But that changed in a matter of weeks as we started to talk about it more and read some literature on it. I feel the books answered and reassured her of any unanswered questions and she almost became instantly accepting. She now helps and participates and i think it was all due to her own want to gain more insight and our communication on crossdressing. As long as she feels your comfortable in discussing it and is somewhat confident in yourself then i think, with time, things will look brighter.