Originally Posted by
emmicd
For those who are transgendered and or transsexual are you now at peace with who you are and if you are where are you on the path to being your true self?
I am definitely at peace with who I really am. The path towards becoming whole is long and I am only part way there - I need to lose a lot of weight before I can be considered for Gender Confirmation Surgery, but I am making progress.
I am also making progress with my voice which started off about 10 Hz below the bottom end of the normal male pitch range but is now up into an acceptable female pitch provided that I concentrate and don't get too tired.
Originally Posted by
emmicd
How long has it took for you to achieve peace with you and others.
Achieving peace with myself was relatively easy once I gave myself permission to admit who I am and began to act upon that.
I have been extremely fortunate in that my transition has not caused any friction with my friends and family and has largely been supported where I work.
Originally Posted by
emmicd
How are your relationships with family? friends? coworkers?
Family: Never been better. My oldest brother and his wife had the hardest time understanding, but their children helped them.
Friends: I have been very pleasantly surprised by the quiet support from several friends who I did not expect to "Get it". Some of my favourite comments were:
1 (from someone who I only know slightly) "When I read about your transition, I showed the article to my husband and told him 'That's my friend'..."
2 (from an 80 year old ex-army gent) "In my day we didn't talk about that sort of thing, but I wanted you to know that you have my full support"
3 (from a neighbour a few doors down) "I would like you to promise me that if anyone gives you grief over this you will let me know"
4 (from a very good friend) "You know Rianna, you are a much nicer person than Robert ever was"
Co-workers: All my immediate team-mates and managers accept me fully. Some people from other departments have gone out of their way to be friendly since my transition.
Originally Posted by
emmicd
Are you now where you should be?
Not quite where I should be yet, but definitely getting there slowly but surely
Originally Posted by
emmicd
Do you feel regrets?
I have regretted that I spent so many decades fighting who I am, but now my main source of regret is that I will never know the joy of being a mother.
Originally Posted by
emmicd
Are you happier?
I am much happier and apparently it shows. I have been variously described as "flourishing", "Blossoming" and "Radiating happiness".
Originally Posted by
emmicd
What are your plans now for the future?
Lose about 20 - 30 kg, drop 5 dress sizes, improve my voice, go for Gender Confirmation Surgery, continue to support others.