Over that last several weeks I have read more and more posts from wives or girlfriends who have discovered their male SO is a crossdresser. I think it's great you are here and trying to get some perspective. I think you will find it.
I am, however, greatly concerned that you will be put off by so much of the weirdness I see posted daily. I can only offer my perspective of crossdressing but the majority of what I see posted does not reflect my view of a "normal" crossdresser (The irony of using "normal" here is not lost on me). I fear that when you join and begin reading you may run for the hills thinking you entered a freakshow.
I really feel a sense of obligation to extend help to any SO looking for information. I know your SO would want that help offered. I can feel the anger and sense of betrayal in so many of your original posts. My wife accepted me easily but I know that is not typical. Please don't read more into so many of the posts than what they are, an individual expressing random nonsense. The vocal minority often get too much press. Please feel free to ask any question and to call bullshit on posts that don't represent you as a woman, wife and person.