heel heels everywhere not good

[DeniseNJ]

Well the wife started drinking wine today around 12pm by 4pm she was loaded went thru 2 bottles, All day I worked outside cutting grass filling cracks in the driveway with filler bolting my new motor to the engine stand, blowing things off. I come in and shower , kinda tired from all the bending over. She told me to go to the casino in Phila she had slot $$$, so I shower, put on a little mascrea and shadow, grab my girl jeans and give her a nice hug and kiss and said I will see ya later. By this time it was 6pm. She was still awake but I thought she was ready for the sack, she had been up since 2am. Before going , I stop by the nail salon for a color change on my toes. I have a candy fushia color on. I go to the Sugerhouse and wear my sandles , tho this time I got a few stares but no comments. I come home @ 9:45 and she is still up and eatting chilie and wanted me to heat her up another bowl. She said get me a bottled water , because I didn't take the cap off POOP hit the fan. She went off and went to the Bed-room slammed the door and locked herself in. I am like WTF just happen I walk into the other bedroom and 6 single heels are thrown on the floor and my wig is laying across the couch. The other pair to the heels were in the closet along with my other girlie stuff. I left on good terms, I didn't come in the house wearing the sandles but my lofers . She must have did this earlier in the night what ever told her to do this was a _______ moment. So I sit here wondering what the morning will bring, it is not like I hide my stuff, it is everywhere right in closets on shelves and she knows. She must hate Denise. She knew about the pedicure I got the other day with color and I was walking around barefoot and she didn't care. Who knows what tomorrow will bring. This wine was 2 buck chuck from trader Joes well actually $4 buck charles shaw. Dam she was one angry bitch with all that wine in her wish me luck I am gonna need it tomorrow!!!

[StephanieJ]

So sorry about the drama. Sending hope and prayers. Try to get some rest tonight. Sounds like you are going to need it when she sobers up.

[GaleWarning]

How long have you been married?
Was your wife's drinking not a warning signal?

[Tara D. Rose]

All I can do is ...cough..cough...cough..

[heatherdress]

Sorry to read. Lack of sleep and 2 bottles of wine are not a good combination.

[DeniseNJ]

Sorry to read. Lack of sleep and 2 bottles of wine are not a good combination.

Add another bottle to the mix throw in a healthy dose of PMS she is broke but using her credit card like a drunken sailor Not looking for a PITTY PARTY HERE Just like Friday said The FACTS only the FACTS

[Cynthia Anne]

Pay backs are hell! Buy two bottles of wine and get DRUNK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Stephanie47]

Basically, too much alcohol has the tendency to bring out the worst in some people. Getting drunk during the day on several bottles of wine is a sign of alcoholism. I also think she has a problem accepting your cross dressing.

[rachel_rachel]

And the drinking to get back at her proves what ladies? I think Denise has said is quite enough, maybe wait for the affects of the wine to wear off and discuss things like adults.

[STACY B]

Love it,,,Make up a Lie an say she done all kinds of Crazy stuff an see what she says ,,LOL,,,, Black out drunk ,,,LOL,,,, Say DAM what the hell did the COPS want last night ? I just went to the Casino an when I got home they were just leaving an you told um something ? They said if they see ya back out or here of you going back outside Naked they are going to take you to Jail ! See what she says ,,LOL,,,

[Tina B.]

I think I would just lay low until the hangover passes, that could take a couple of days after that much wine, Then it sounds like time for a serious talk, someone is not happy!
Tina B.

[linda allen]

We're talking about a marriage here and (we hope) two people who love and respect each other. Several of the responses are clearly not serious advice (again, we hope). "Getting back" at a marriage partner will never turn out well.

The wife here seems to have a problem with alcohol unless this is an isolated incident. A loving husband will try to find a solution for the alcohol abuse problem. Counselling, AA, whatever works. Discussion of crossdressing can come later.

Denise, please don't look for your answer on a crossdressing forum. Find some real, live help in your area for the drinking problem. I wish you two the best.

[Paula T]

Your sense of humor is priceless. Meaning Stacy B

[Beverley Sims]

I agree with Linda here, too much to drink brings out pent up emotions.
I hope you are able to talk t over later on.

[rachael.davis]

umm, ignoring the drama, and the agression.

You probably need to sit down with her, and say do you have any idea who long you were drinking, and how much you had ? Whatever you have going on in your marriage is your business but this sounds like a serious substance abuse problem.

And I pity her the hangover from several bottles of cheap ass hootch.

[flatlander_48]

Sad. This sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen...

[2B Natasha]

Add another bottle to the mix throw in a healthy dose of PMS she is broke but using her credit card like a drunken sailor Not looking for a PITTY PARTY HERE Just like Friday said The FACTS only the FACTS

So let me get this straight.
Your married as you call her your wife
That makes the two of you a team
Then you go on to say. " she's broke and using her credit cards like a drunken sailor. Isn't it. If she's broke. Your broke too?
She had slot $$$ you say. Why does a broke person have slot $$$ and why are you taking them?
So your wife crawls into a bottle and you leave to change the color on your toes. REALLY?!
You wonder why she throws all your stuff out in the room. Could it be that you value that stuff more then? In your previous post you wax on about how you wish you born a women yadda yadda yadda.

Did it occur to you that your probable ignoring her? Or at least she thinks so. Why do you put so little value on her and your time?

I wish I had more time to type. I'm so confused by what you post. It's FRUSTRATING!

[JulieK1980]

Kind of curious of how you managed to go to a casino with "slot money" when she's broke.

Have you ever considered that she may have a drinking problem? The way you wrote your post sort of infers that she spent the entire day drinking from 2am on.

I don't know, but it also sounds like you have some serious communication issues in your marriage, and if I were in your shoes I'd probably start working on that instead of running off to the casino.

[BRANDYJ]

Your story is confusing as someone else pointed out. But if I understand this right. You say your wife is broke, yet has some casino dollars. I assume this means chips or something other then cash. You complain that she is broke??? This is your wife??? That to me means you are broke too. Yet you go get your nails done??? Kind of an extravagant expense if you and your wife are broke. Not to mention the expense to drive to a casino. And perhaps a drink or two and spend some extra money on gambling? She told you to go to the casino??? Doesn't sound like you protested to much. Sounds like she could have said that in a way t hope you'd stay home and spend time with her. And if she didn't sleep and drank as much as you say, there is no way I would have left her alone. With all this drama, you found it important to tell us what color polish you had on and that no one made comments about it, only stares? How is this important with what's going on between you and your wife? At this point I'd sure like to hear your wife's version of the night. I would guess it's very different from yours. She sounds like she is lonely and neglected and that she threw all the heels and the wig in frustration because you seem to care more about your CD lifestyle then you care about her. I feel sorry for her. Then you add: Add another bottle to the mix throw in a healthy dose of PMS she is broke but using her credit card like a drunken sailor Not looking for a PITTY PARTY HERE Just like Friday said The FACTS only the FACTS This does not seem like a marriage or even a partnership the way you say she's broke, but I guess you're not?
From what I read and the confusing way you wrote it, I sense some serious selfishness on your part. I'd say that what tomorrow brings is not good. Sounds like her drinking is out of frustration over your dressing and leaving her alone. So tomorrow might find you the one that's alone. No, you won't get any pity from me on this one. Your wife gets my pity. Sorry, but I sense her drinking is largely due to you and your neglect of her and making your girly time more important in your life then your wife is. Maybe you can make more sense and clear up the facts and I'd change my mind about how I read this sad story about your wife's coping with you and your dressing.
I have been guilty of some of what I'm seeing going on, so I speak from my hard lessons learned. You need to take a good hard long look in the mirror and see what might be the root problem. I just find it hard to put it all on your wife.

[Foxglove]

That makes the two of you a team
Then you go on to say. " she's broke and using her credit cards like a drunken sailor. Isn't it. If she's broke. Your broke too?

Kind of curious of how you managed to go to a casino with "slot money" when she's broke.

This does not seem like a marriage or even a partnership the way you say she's broke, but I guess you're not?

Some couples keep their money separate because the woman wants financial independence. Is that the case here?

[Jane G]

Sounds like your wife, is after a little time with you. If she was in at 2am is she working shifts?

I'm having trouble relating to you going out to the Casino and leaving her in to get drunk, after you hadn't seen much of her all day. The two of you need to sit down and talk about what's realy going on here.

[DeniseNJ]

Let me clear the AIR. when you gamble and loose alot of MONEY the Casinos know they have you HOOKED. So they send you rewards slot dollars like 50 to 100 dollars to use on a certain date. Not only does she have a drinking problem, and takes anti depresents she also had a serious Gambling problem 3 1/2 years agio I had to take out a $70,000 home equity loan to pay off her credit cards that most of the $ was @ 29% interest rate cause she took many 500 and $1000 cash advances and gambled that money away too. She was paying over $1500 a month on credits cards and that was the minium allowed payment most were @ $300 monthly . I since refinanced @ 3.75% and I am 1 1/2 years in on a 10 year fixed for $170,000 picture those numbers with taxes. I can not talk to her nor does she realize that using her credit card s bad I have a $22,500 limit on one of my cards and I owe like $120.00 on the balance. We have seperate accounts checking and savings and our credit scores are in the 830 range. she is so irresponsible and will not listen to reason DIVORCE you say I am so ready she is in self destruct mode . Yes I am an enabler I did but her a case of 2 buck chuck from trader Joes the other day , the same wine that made her go nuts. It is my F#$Ked up life and I have to deal with it . So when you think you have it so bad in life just think of me with a wife that you can not talk to not to mention reason with. I guess I am a glutten for punishment OH well just remember someone has it worse than you and someone has it worse than me!!! it's a wonder I have my sanity

[NathalieX66]

Glad I don't live in South Jersey (the southern end of NJ).....I'd be broke by now.
If you want a hug, well, here.

Live, from the Garden State....where we love to waste money on booze & gambling.

[Christine Kelly]

Time to move on.
This girl is trouble.

[heatherdress]

Denise - seek professional help - for yourself. A good therapist is needed.