If CD'ing isn't about sex, then why....

[Bree-asaurus]

Crossdressing is not a point on a map. It is a line, so that everyone who is on that line is different. It is true that frequently, especially when young, the sexual component is strong. Men are visual for one thing so seeing wheat we have been taught is sexy elicits a sexual response. It isn't really much different than seeing a naked women in am magazine (or when men are young breathing can do that). The feel of certain things can do it too. Soft and silky reminds men of the softness a woman portrays.

To say that "Crossdressing isn't a sexual thing" as a blanket statement would be wrong, but for the majority it is no longer sexual or it never was. Why your husband reacts as he does is normal. It is good (trust me on this there may come a time when the reaction is virtually impossible no matter how hard we want.)

Think this way, when you were just reaching puberty, so much of what you wore was directed at sex (I know you didn't want sex, but really, women are looking for sexual mates). This isn't far off from what a new CD feels. While women don't get to show it visually, you know that when you wore a certain article of clothing you felt sexy. Men have difficulty in hiding this reaction. Women soon realize that in general clothing is just clothing but it is still a visual thing for sex. CDs often grow to this level also.

So when the posters here say it isn't sexual, they are mostly correct. It is sexual in that they are working to be attractive. It isn't because usually the physical reaction wears off. If the CD gets to live their hope, to wear what they want when they want without concern, the "physical" part becomes just as common as a woman who gets that sexy dress for teh party. It is there but less common

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But I also wanted to share a little tidbit.

We have a cockatiel. When he's happy or excited (like when we wake up and he gets to have attention) he masturbates. He's not attracted to humans, but he's just so thrilled to be in our company that he gets aroused and... well... he's learned how to take care of that lol.

My boyfriend used to work with chimps. He was a good friend to the chimps and they loved hanging out with him and interacting with him. There's one chimp that would get so excited if you let him groom you, he would get a little too excited and start... you know...

Anyway, my point is that just because someone gets aroused by something doesn't mean it's a sexual thing. But once they're aroused, that in itself kind of leads to... sexual stuff lol.

And even if it is a sexual thing for him, so what? Is it any worse than having any other kink, like bondage or talking dirty or even watching porn? As long as you're both fulfilled sexually what's wrong with him liking what he likes? Some people are so silly and think that if a man gets aroused by someone or something besides them, that it is somehow replacing them... and that's just nuts. Don't be that girl :P

What you should take away from this? Just be happy his junk works so you can use it :P