Hi everyone. I'm new to the site and wondering if there are many out there like me who are completely closeted about their dressing and have no desire to go public?
Or are most people looking to make dressing part of their "normal" everyday life?
Hi everyone. I'm new to the site and wondering if there are many out there like me who are completely closeted about their dressing and have no desire to go public?
Or are most people looking to make dressing part of their "normal" everyday life?
I'd love it to be part of everyday life, but like you have no plans to come out of the closet--a very nice closet by the way.
In almost 8 yrs i have been outside, about 12 or 15 times. I would like to try it, VERY CAREFULLY a few times a year.
I am happy with my life, I can dress around the house with my wife home, but don't have the desire to go out dressed except undressing.
I actually find it more exciting not to tell my wife... it's my little secret and telling her would somehow spoil it a little in my mind. Not sure why though! She knows I like that kind of stuff, but has shown little or no interest in it.
There are lots of us. Other than my wife knowing (a lesson I learned the hard way), I'm deeply closeted.
There are folks who will try to pull you out of the closet using various tactics like guilt and shame, and it's mostly for their own benefit, not yours. But each of us knows our own situation best and have to make coming out/staying closeted decisions ourselves.
I agree with most others that you should tell your future wife before marriage (again, a lesson I learned the hard way).
I am an in-home cross dresser. I have been outside on occasion during the evening when I feel I will not encounter humanity. I dress for stress relief. Going outside my home and backyard would be counterproductive. I enjoy getting all prettied up and working around the house and backyard.
I am a completely private dresser as I have no desire to be chased by villagers with torches and pitchforks.
Count me in. I have no need to go out dressed and I am as happy as a very happy person.
My home is not my castle but my closet.I do venture out wrearing womens jeans and sneakers. underdressed but
i can't at this point go out in make-up wig etc.
Closeted, but not limited to the closet, most of the time it's the bedroom, home office, bathroom, and dare I say, gasp the kitchen!
I'm a closet person although I have gone out underdressed on several occasions. I don't get many opportunities as my SO does not know.
I love the feeling of being dressed.
I have a dream of true equality - including clothes and make up.
Hugs Joanne.
I recently told my wife and she is happy with the situation. In fact it has only strengthened our relationship we have ushered in a new era of love trust and honesty between us. I have not gone out of the house dressed en femme but have on several occasions gone out under dressed. Until now I have only dressed in what could be removed in a hurry but now my wife knows the sky's the limit. Just being able to be myself in front of her has its own rewards for me and for Breeze (lets get the femme on)
The closet is great it is the best of both worlds. Stay home and fullfill your fantasy then change and go out with friends without a care.
I have been a single closeted cder for years and love it. It's fetish/sexual for me. It started with pantyhose at 8 and morphed to fully dressing from the neck down(no wig or make up).
Cary
I'd like to go out but I'm not kidding myself. I'm just not passable. However,the closet does have its advantages. My wig and most of my clothes are too young for my age group. But I like them.They make me feel younger,and being in the closet,that's all that matters.
Partially closeted here. My wife has shown a considerable tolerance, understanding, and acceptance, and I'm impressed that she has done some of her own research. That does not change the fact that so far, she has set limits on acceptance, namely that I can shave my legs and wear hose, heels, and a silk robe (which she purchased for me) around her. She does not want to see me in a skirt, dress, and wouldn't dream of helping me look more feminine. She does allow me to underdress with hose when we go out, especially when she is wearing hose herself, because she understands that's an important erotic element for me (especially when we wear the exact same brand and shade...not sure why that trips my trigger but it does).
Beyond that I am closeted and anything more is done in private. I'm both lucky and unlucky that I spend 2-3 nights away from the family for work. Unlucky because I am away, lucky because I can dress to my heart's content. So I have acquired more heels, and some skirts, tops and dresses. She is aware that I have purchased additional items, but she does not want to see them, so that part is DADT and will remain closeted.
I'll take what I can get. It's only been 2 months. I'm hoping that if I show some restraint her curiosity will get the better of her, and she'll invite me to wear everything with her. We'll see. Until then, it's closet for me!
I guess everyone's closet is different. My wife, family and friends do not know I CD. However, I have been out in public a few times dressed as Michelle. I just keep a big wall between my two personalities. No one in my male life knows about Michelle and no one who knows Michelle knows anything about my male side. I will always keep it that way to protect the innocent!
Michellecd9999
I'm sure there are many of you out there that have this secret sacred place of yours that will never leave the bedroom, or your front door.......or that suitcase in your attic full of your womens' fineries.
You all rule in my book.....do what's right for you.
The confines of my own house is not enough for me. ....that's just me. I can only speak for my self, and no one else.
As Ringo, of the Beatles, always says.....Peace & Love.
Last edited by NathalieX66; 02-27-2013 at 12:28 AM.
I am finding a change coming from within, where I would like to try being dressed 'en femme' in public. On two occasions I did this in 'male mode' by wearing' clothing which was questionably feminine. The only exception was the pair of women's sandals, I wore with my women's jeans, panties, and scoop-necked tee shirt. No bra was worn as I did not want it to show. No makeup. No wig. Nails were all male (feet and hands) - no color.
I know this is boring, but for me, this was a big step taken. I went to two shopping malls, and also had a manicure and pedicure dressed in this manner.
In time, I'll get braver....
Di
First things first, Welcome! I am closeted at home, work and among my non cd friends. I travel all the time for my job, and am usually dressed in the evenings in my hotel, and go out often. I love going out dressing, eiher shopping, the local karaoke bar or to dinner. It takes a ton of courage the first few times, but is so much fun. I've never had a bad experience, and found most people are curious and friendly. You will find girls of all types here, closeted, Cd only, straight, gay, transexual and everything else. Just be who you are and come one in, the waters great!
My closet is very comfortable. I live alone and rarely dress, but I seem to visit this site on a daily basis. I have no desire to go outside or to show this side of me to anyone. I had a girlfriend who encouraged me, but dressing up was still a rare occurance.
For me, dressing was suddenly, just there! It had apparently lurked quietly below the surface then . . . .
Emotions ranged from excited to mortified as I came to realize my status as a CD. It wasn't planned, it suddenly just was! As a macho type guy, there was a certain amount of "are you nuts" in my thinking.
As I dressed at home, my SO and I came quickly to realize that my need to dress was a very positive thing in that it allowed me to relax, to get in touch with my emotions, to communicate far more effectively and more in depth than ever before. No guilt.
While I am not out to everyone, my wife, oldest son and one old and very trusted friend are aware of my dressing.
That said, I've been out once fully dressed to a casino in Las Vegas. Great fun! While I can't imagine CD full time, going out is fun and I suspect distinctly different than the simple need to dress. I recommend it, very liberating!
A delightful adventure we are all embarked upon; great joy to you all where ever your dressing may lead!