There seems to be something of a tempest around one of our esteemed members being brutally honest in her posts, to the point of being mean in the view of some others. Perhaps I haven't been paying close enough attention, but I have seen hardly any posts that qualify as truly mean. Do some of us become too sensitive when the compliments are not as glowing as expected?
I coached my daughter's team in softball for several years. I would sometimes hear parents in the stands calling out something like "Good throw, Suzie" when it clearly wasn't. I would question them on this.
"I was just being positive".
Well there are many ways to be positive without lying to your child. Such as, "Great effort." "You had the right idea." "Your throws are improving" "Better luck next time", etc.
There is plenty of room to be honest and still complimentary with a sister who doesn't measure up to your standard of beauty. And I think many here need just that from this forum as a refuge from a world that is a long way from granting us full acceptance. People who are still unsure about who they are and in need of a voice telling them "You're OK". Just a small compliment (truthful, of course) accompanied by a well intentioned tip on improving their makeup techniques, for example. Just saying