In another thread, LeighR. said that her wife doesn't tolerate any evidence of dressing.
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...at-s-the-point
I wanted to focus in on one side point, but I didn't want to hijack the thread, so I started a new one. Hope that's okay.
She said she's tired of having to be the man, and I want to know more about what that might mean to cross-dressers in general.
What happens if you try to analyze or reject gendered activities separately from gendered clothes? We often have posts about "how to tell my wife that I wear women's clothing," but I can't remember any posts about any of the following topics:
"How to tell my wife that I want to quit my job."
"How to tell my wife that I want to be able to express emotions."
"How to tell my wife that I want to stop killing bugs and carrying heavy boxes for her."
"How to tell my wife that I want to stop being responsible for doing the taxes, or maintaining the car, or ..."
I know that men often say they feel trapped by their gendered roles, feel they have to compete in an aggressive male world. But I want to know more about what that feels like, and why that aspect can't be addressed separately from the clothes issue.
Maybe I'm way off track, and the only aspect that men don't like about the male role is that they aren't allowed to feel pretty. If that's true, please let me know. I'm just trying to understand how much is about the clothes and how much is about the burden of other kinds of gendered expectations.