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1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I'd like to begin with saying "Thank You" for asking these questions. Frank, honest, and open communications are necessary for understanding everyone's feelings.
To answer the unasked question: in my case, it is not sexual. I derive no sexual gratification from crossdressing.
I enjoy the textures, colors, and feeling of feminine clothing. Masculine clothing seems much too dull and predictable. If I walk into a room wearing a suit, there will be a dozen other guys wearing essentially the same suit, albeit with a different tie.
I like to express myself in ways that seem out of place, dissonant, coming from a man. Gentler, softer more empathetic, more ... uh ... feminine. In my mind, the dissonance is less coming from a man dressed as a woman, acting in a feminine manner as it does from a man acting in a feminine manner. It doesn't make sense, I know.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
We're new to this. After I realized what they were, I spent a couple months reading a bunch of things about my desires and disclosed them to my wife a couple months after that. It's been a couple months since then.
My wife has been under a great deal of stress at work, stress that will certainly end in the spring. I will initiate discussions at that time when the stress is gone. At this time, there is an awareness but no acceptance.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Much more! My wife is wonderful; she always has been. She is the one I want to go with on vacations, play board games, talk about things, hug and cuddle. If I could, I would walk away from MsVal in a heartbeat.
4) When you and your SO are alone together, would you prefer she used female words in referring to you ("we girls"), or would you prefer she rely on your clothes to determine how to refer to you? (So refer to you as a man when you're in drab.) Assuming she knows the situation, of course.
I can't yet answer that question from first hand experience, but I believe I would like to be addressed in a fashion that is consistent with my presentation.
5)What do you do for your SO to show how you feel about her acceptance?
Each day I to be a better husband than I was the day before. I am the homemaker and I make sure her needs are met before any others. I tell her at least once per day how grateful I am that she puts up with me.
6)Let's say that when you were in the closet, you liked your SO to be very stereotypically feminine (manicure, sexy outfits, high heels).
Once you come out to her, do you still prefer her to dress ultra-sexy, or have you stopped caring as much what she wears?
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7)What have you done in the relationship to improve it, so your SO also feels the benefit of supporting you?
(see #5)
8)For those CDers who have undergone more permanent changes, such as ear piercing, waxing, laser or electrolysis (not HRT--I'm gearing the changes to physical, not chemical)--do you feel more at peace with yourself even on the occasions when you have to present as male?
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9) Whats the blue eye shadow all about ????
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10) Would you go into a relationship with the only reason the GG is accepting?
I don't envision a situation where I would be looking for another relationship.