It looks like I joined this site four years ago. I probably lurked for a year before that. I've been a cross dresser for over fifty years, although in the 1960's I thought I was not a cross dresser, but, "sick, disgusting, etc." Now? Well, I just like to wear women's clothing on occasion. I have never had a desire to transition. I am completely satisfied being a man. If I were not a man, there I would want to be a woman.
As to "group think," I believe there are too many men who throw caution to the wind and really upset the marital apple cart. "If he can dress in front of his wife, I can do that too!" "If he can get dolled up and go grocery shopping, then I can do it too!" There are many unique circumstances of which an individual has no knowledge. Yes, I've read too many postings here where the cross dressing has blown up a relationship with a woman because the man has asserted his cross dressing without taking into consideration the negative impact. Many of my posts/comments have been in the nature of caution.