Hi Rachel, I feel something of what you feel. I am way overweight and don't pass, but I love getting dolled up. I have found ways to proveide dressing relief or vents so to speak, where it meets the needs I feel is a substantial enough way to be satisfied. Knowing all life has limits in many ways, find some happiness in the girl time you do have, then revert without shedding a tear, knowing life goes on as a male. Sounds like you are looking for some type of balance in all this. I agree with you, it is not PInk Fog all the time, I many times want a bit more, but have found ways to be satisfies where I am! Maybe start with your wife, just be the best girlfriend a wife ever had!!