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Thread: So... Just how straight of a guy are you??

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    The Geek Girl JessicaKasey's Avatar
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    I would say I'm straight, although I am fairly bi-curious towards Trans-girls. I admire the well looked after male body occasionally, but I'm not attracted to men.

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    I just stumbled across this thread -- it's fascinating. I think the best advice I've read on this comes from the well-known Dr. Alice Novic (or Dr. Richard Novic, depending on what's being worn at any given time). You can read what Dr. Novic says about this at www.aliceingenderland.com but the essence of what she believes is in this quote below:

    "Today’s first question is Am I gay? The short answer is No, you're not, but you’re not exactly straight either.

    To me and to most gay men, being gay describes a specific thing. It ‘s more like saying “He’s Mexican,” rather than “He’s definitely not from around here.” As a crossdresser, you’re clearly not gay in the sense of wanting to be a man sexually with a man and all the stuff that so often comes with it, like a head-spinning appreciation for the male form, an Oscar-Wilde-like wit, and a passion for fashion and celebrities. Oh, sure you may be loving all the little nuances of ladies’ clothing, but that’s not the same thing. Just the simple fact you call yourself a crossdresser means that you’re not gay, for most people (and specifically me in part 1 of this series) define crossdresser as a primarily straight man who is profoundly satisfied to imagine himself as a woman. So, you’re fundamentally heterosexual on some level or sorely misusing the term crossdresser.

    But, are you completely straight? Well, hey, to answer that question I first owe you a definition of the term straight. Completely straight, or completely heterosexual describes a man who is only interested in sex as a man with a woman. You, my dear reader, may—despite your crossdressing consider yourself such a man, only for that to change—if you’re lucky—as opportunities present themselves. What if you had the chance to make like lipstick lesbians with your wife, another beautiful woman, a breathtaking transsexual, or another nice-looking crossdresser? Or what about my favorite: getting to be a sweet, slender girl in the arms of some giant of a man?"

    So what's the takeaway? It's complicated! As for me, I've never been attracted to the male body. I've always been in love with and attracted to the female form. However, sometimes, that female form is presented so well by a TG sister...'nuff said.

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    These are my favorite threads because it causes us to look at our feelings, and what turns us on, both currently, and how we have evolved over the years. I find them incredibly fascinating, and interesting. I know this is my second post to this thread, but I'll just state how straight I am again. I think I am more bi/bi-curious. Like many others, I adore the female form. That means, I adore how a CD looks if he is pulling off the female look. He doesn't have to be 100% passable, just sexy (maybe 80% passable?). I could see myself, if I were single, actually dating a fem-cd. I don't have as big a desire to dress any more, but I must say I use to love to dress in-the-closet style, and yes, it was sexually exciting to dress. I think over the years, I came to accept that I liked to do that, and knew I was different, but was OK with it in private. After I discovered this site (once Al Gore invented the Internet), I was amazed to see how many others were out there with the EXACT same thoughts and desires that I had. I could still get into dressing up with someone, but would be OK with just being the guy and going out with another CD too.

    I've never had any experience with another man, but I did have an experience as a young teen with another my age. Given the right circumstances, I would try it with another CD/TS.

    Laura

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    basically if i get attention from someone while i'm dressed, i'm definitely going to show interest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lesli View Post
    basically if i get attention from someone while i'm dressed, i'm definitely going to show interest.
    Lesli, I know exactly what you mean. One of the first times I attracted the attention of a man was a thrill I don't think I'll ever forget. Maybe it was just validation, but when his hand brushed my leg at the bar, whooooooeeeeee! *lol* And yes, it's still a thrill.

    Generally speaking I've been trudging across the sexuality spectrum from hetero --> homo for years. I consider myself at this point to be a confirmed bisexual.

    It's kind of interesting (if only to me) that on the street, it's still going to be the sight of a woman--well formed, well dressed, well accessorized, well whatever--that gets my motor running. The sight of a random man on the street does little for me. But when I'm dressed, a man's attention is like catnip to me.



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    I really don't know what I am.

    My entire life I have only dated women. When I am dressed as a man I don't even notice men. Only women. But,
    as a man, when I see an attractive women, I am not aroused by having sex with her, I am aroused by imagining I am her.
    So as a man, I would have to say I am asexual, because I am not aroused by having sex with men or women.

    On the other had, when I dress in private as a women ( I have never gone out in public as a woman), I am aroused by
    having sex with everyone. As a women, I guess I am bisexual.

    But, at this point I live as a man, (I am thinking about transitioning, but I am in kind of a difficult position),
    so I guess I am an asexual "man" that dates women.

    Does anyone else feel the same way?

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    Behaviorally, straight. Never been with a male.

    Internally, I admit I've been attracted to both sexes. Women are sexier, but there is more of a taboo to same sex attraction which adds adrenaline to the arousal when it's a gay attraction. I think that is what drives some men to be attracted to transwomen. But I've been turned on by women, transwomen, and men at different times, depending on my mood.

    I think I only "desire" women. Any same sex attractions I've had have been momentary, never really come close to infatuation. But to call myself straight, I sometimes feel dishonest when I say that.

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    I have to be bi-sexual with a tendency to enjoy pleasing men more than women. Just something about being submissive to a man that excites me but I do love women.

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    When I say I'm straight (as most people know me), it's only an approximation. My attraction towards women is far stronger than for men. With men, it's more of a taboo thing. I enjoy it because I'm not supposed to by social standards. I do, however, love being manhandled once in a while. It just feels good to me feeling what it's like on the other end, as I'm usually very dominant in the bedroom. I consider myself a 1.5 on the Kinsey (sometimes a 2)

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    Quote Originally Posted by lesli View Post
    basically if i get attention from someone while i'm dressed, i'm definitely going to show interest.
    I'm 99% attracted to women but if I go to a Tg / Cd club I get confused because I'm fooled and can't tell the difference...

    As far as attention from men it would depend on man, depends on men. So far it's been thanks but no thanks.

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    Right now straight but not having had sex for almost ten years I'm starting to be open to other possibilities. I'm definitely afraid of the guilt factor if I ever did do something. If I did I would prefer another CD. Have been very turned on lately with CD porn. Have wondered many times what it would feel like to be taken.

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    I haven't read all of the comments to the post, but comedian Ron White had a skit noting all men are a little gay. Just a thought--nothing more.

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    Don't confuse enjoying the attention of a gender with wanting sex with the other person's sexual organs. We all want acceptance and affirmation from people, and when dressed it may be extra nice to be affirmed by a man that you are attractive, and this affirmation may make you feel very good. But it not the same as wanting the man's penis in you. If we define homosexual as wanting sex with a person of the same sexual organs, then I am straight hetero.

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    It's pretty simple for me, but my story might seem a little complicated. I am just me and me is just sexual. When I was younger, I wanted to have sex with a man. So when I moved to California when I was 21 I did just that. I lived with this guy for almost two years. For the longest time we were monogamous. I was his "bottom" and it was awesome. Something about submitting to a man in that way that is just incredible. But. He started dating other guys and I started seeing other women. I can't say for sure, but I think there was a least one day when I had sex with him and sex with a woman.

    Fast forward about 30 years. The girl I was living with and I had decided on an open relationship. I thought this would be an opportune time to explore that side of me again. I dated women and tried to find suitable male partners. I even had a threesome with a couple. I didn't have as much luck with men as I did women. A lot of men who claim to be bisexual are just pigs. They want to meet in a park or fool around in your car. They don't want to be affectionate. I thought about dating gay men, but didn't want to get drawn into a serious relationship.

    Bottom line is this: If you are open-minded, you can enjoy sex with both men and women. Anyone can enjoy certain things as long as they're open-minded, uninhibited and relaxed. I enjoy being submissive with a man, but I'm not holding out hope on ever finding a partner who would enjoy the things I do. I have a new girlfriend who knows EVERYTHING about me. I enjoy being with her and enjoying "normal" sex. She's pretty awesome.

    A lot of people might not understand this, but to me it's pretty simple. I'm comfortable with who I am and enjoy it. The same goes for dressing. I'm not conflicted. I do it because it's fun.
    man, i feel like a woman

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    When I'm drab, I like girls.
    When I dress, I like guys.
    Makes life a LOT easier.

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    I fantasize about getting set up on a date with a man, but I can't see myself actually doing it. Like others have posted, I am interested in women parts and dressing like them at times .
    Last edited by Lorileah; 10-04-2014 at 11:08 AM. Reason: accidently merged with another member

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    I date only CD's and males. I haven't had a date with a GG in over ten years.
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    Quote Originally Posted by melanie206 View Post
    I'm not going to read all 157 posts on this thread just to put in my two cents. I get the idea. My thought: If you have only been with women up till now and only fantasize about men or other gurls then you may say you are straight. If you get physical with another gurl or man AND want to do it again you are bi or gay. Now doesn't that simplify matters.
    I guess that makes me straight, but damn, do I have fantasies and one day, who knows if I will give in

    Quote Originally Posted by jeniinnylons View Post
    Right now straight but not having had sex for almost ten years I'm starting to be open to other possibilities. I'm definitely afraid of the guilt factor if I ever did do something. If I did I would prefer another CD. Have been very turned on lately with CD porn. Have wondered many times what it would feel like to be taken.
    Couldnt have said it better, your thoughts are exactly the same as mine

    I dont mean to be disrespectful and dont want to break any rules, but for those of us that have commented about being dressed and being with a man... Would that include anal? For some reason, I dont find that to be erotic.. When dressed and when my fantasy is running at it is strongest, I tingle when I think of kissing, cuddling and and performing oral on him... but anything further just doesnt excite me..
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    I don't actively seek out men nor am I attracted to men.

    I'm attracted to femininity. A person's biological sex doesn't matter as much as their gender to me, they need to be a girl.
    Just Roll With It

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaze_ View Post
    I'm attracted to femininity. A person's biological sex doesn't matter as much as their gender to me, they need to be a girl.
    This!

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    Sexually I only see myself expressing sexually with women. I would love to have a relationship en femme with an interested woman. Does that make it kind of lesbian in nature? I have no problem at all sharing my crossdressing passion with certain women, but I am never comfortable with men in the picture.
    My last time dressed I got my makeup beautifully done in a hairdressing school and one of the male students just "had to touch up my hair" and the pass he made at me felt....awful.

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    Laura.lapinski,
    It took me 5 minutes to reread your note. Couldn't stop laughing after this (once Al Gore invented the Internet) hehe Thanks

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    I'm bisexual, but I've noticed the majority of the time that I'm attracted to men is when I'm in Aleta mode (at least mentally).
    I'm a girl when I feel like it

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    I'm long hair on a skinny body frame. Love doing things with my long haired wife and her friends. Therefore bisexual.

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    I am bisexual 100%! i love men and women. I like guys when i am dressed up or when im not dressed up. It doesnt really affect me:P But the thing with guys though, is i'd prefer to be bottom over anything else! I love women all the time no matter what haha. Its confusing, but thats just how it is i guess haha. I guess to sum it up im just fluid with sexuality and my gender. I go where ever it takes me haha

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