With regards to active use of the Szondi Test, in a posting here, John William Reich of the Arizona State University · Department of Psychology, an author of 74 publications, wrote
And that is in reference to the full Szondi test of 48 high-quality photos; the abbreviated 8 photo "pick one" test of low quality pictures is even less meaningful.In American psychology, it has been a joke. For decades, it has not been taught in any approved Clinical Psychology program.
About 5 1/2 years ago, I started going to a non-gender therapist. My question was "How do I take the good things I found in cross-dressing and incorporate them into the rest of my life?" It was not a question about stopping cross-dressing; it was a recognition that while I was cross-dressing I was, in part, more... enabled... to parts of my personality that I did not typically use, and the reactions of other people towards me while I was cross-dressing were ones that I valued. For example, I was more open to socialization, more outgoing, had an easier time talking to people. How would I integrate myself, instead of using cross-dressing as a tool to access those parts? With the idea that afterwards, I might still enjoy cross-dressing and might continue it but I wouldn't have to rely on it (not unlike the way some people rely upon drugs to release themselves to be a person they prefer.)
The question never did get answered before the therapist moved away two years ago. I used the therapy more to cope with life as a whole, which had a lot of stresses for me. At the last session with her, I reviewed and decided that the reason that the question had become "unimportant" to me was that my cross-dressing life and "the rest of my life" had become more synonymous. For example I was 24/7 female clothes including at work, just not "too obvious to be able to willingly ignore" (e.g., skirts or dresses.) I was even on HRT by then.
That is the standard trope for transsexuals, that they had "always known" that their body didn't match their gender. The truth is more complicated. I never felt that I was born in the wrong body or that I was supposed to be a girl. But I am transitioning anyhow, with the question being "how far" and "how soon".I do not now, nor have I ever had any desire to fully transition. I have never felt I was born in the wrong body or that was supposed to be a girl.
One of the very most important questions for transsexuals is "How do you need to live?" It wasn't that I particularly want to be trans or particularly want to transition, but I was unable to continue to try to be male. If being male doesn't work for you, then don't try be male, even if the alternative is not something you "always wanted".
I am certain that is not the case. A "fair portion" or "the majority" of the problems, perhaps, but definitely not "100%".Originally Posted by CherylFlint
Remember, people change. Circumstances change. Society changes. Religions change.
And even if you have selected a wonderful SO, you cannot select how other members of your SO's family will react. Nor can you select against the possibility that one of your kid's school-mate's parents will freak out leading to a situation where your SO needs to act not based upon personal feelings but for "the best interests of the children".
"100%" due to not being up-front and honest is definitely not a correct assessment.
