The argument as to whether it is right or wrong is ultimately irrelevant. When you are dependent on someone else for the necessities of life, they essentially own you. If dad says no dressing at home or I will throw you out, you don't dress, as unfair or wrong as it might be. If you are a TS, you may not be able to transition until you are independent from him, again as wrong as it might be.
Over the years I have known of people dependent on others who are in far more horrible situations than this (some were in situations which were truly horrific.)
I can relate to this situation, so I know what I speak of. When I was young and living at home, my father found out about my dressing. I wrongly assumed it gave me a little room to be open about it. I took my favorite red wig out and kept it out in the open on my dresser. I was away one day and I never saw that wig again (he literally burned it.) Be thankful your father isn't nuts or destructive.
