It sounds like having a consultation with a gender therapist might help you a lot. They are not just to help people transition, they are just here to help people being comfortable with their gender identity. By discussing with you, the therapist would be able to find what parts of your male and female sides are really driving your personality, and will give you a lot of advices on how to interact with people around you, including your wife.
I have had one visit last week, and the confidence boost I got out of it was really impressive. I am going to see her again Tuesday.
Something is for sure, your feminine side will never go away, so you will have to learn to accept it first, and find a balance between each side. Good luck!
