Hey Erica,
I think I plonk myself in the 'regular crossdresser' category, except as a few would have said, "there ain't no such thing". However I am happy with who/how I am. Having said that I accept that I'm transgendered and that have a place somewhere between blokey-bloke and girly-girl. Probably somewhere around the middle. I don't have any desire to get in to HRT or go full time but I am happy to be able to show the world the two facets to me.
How do I cope? By accepting that this is me and in either 'mode' it's a legitimate expression of who I am.
Tip - live your life, not the one others expect of you or indeed the one you think they expect of you.
Christen x
