I think this line from Pam says it best. The term of the 60s and 70s is a derogatory term for males who didn't fit into a stereotypical male mold or did not perform as brave. However, ther term has been "repurposed" and is now a welcomed title to those who like to dress in very frilly clothing, almost doll-like. I was on occation insulted as a child by being called a "sissy" and I would immediately retaliate in a very over-the-top aggressive manner.Originally Posted by pamela7
Now, I also think that it may be true that at the time on our entering into awareness that boys and girls are dressed different that we, as CDers, never had the chance to live in that style of clothing. Judith96 has skimmed this thought by saying she "didn't get to wear these things when she WAS 12." I myself, have such a fixation but not to "Sissy" attire. (Although, I do wish I had the chance to "outgrow" the style.)
So, I think the term used in a derogatory manner is very much an insult. However, when used by someone to describe something about themself it is less insulting. It should not be used by someone outside of thier own labeling. Those on the other sites and even those here who say they are into the "Sissy" genre, we know what they are aiming for but THEY said it, THEY called themselves that, THEY are happy in the persona and it can be assumed that THEY are ok with the label.
I'm guessing that a comparison is the way that in certain circles of African Americans it is ok for them to call themselves a certain very derogatory word but NOT suitable for people outside their own circles to do so. I do not, will not and refuse to use the word specifically because I do not believe the current "purpose" of the word has any use in normal lexicon. "Sissy" too can be very derogatory word and is viewed as such by the general public, as it is to many on the forum here but if someone is referring themselves as such or referring to their clothing preferences as such then, who am I to judge? After all, I don't exactly subscribe to societal norms either.
I hope this helps and welcome to the site. It is very informative, sometimes opinionated but always supportive. Just remeber, you are not alone and we welcome a supportive GG SO. So, feel free to ask away. Just be ready to filter through many of the responses to find what fits your needs. Everyone's story is a little different and many have lots in common but it is your life as well as your SOs. You two need to live up to your needs.
-Erika
PS: another "repurposed" word: "ap" used to mean "appetizer" not a handy cell phone gadget-program! Language is always moving.
