I have trouble now going out in drab. What do you do? Show up in a dress shirt and jeans? Drink? Talk to women? I am in a committed relationship, so the talking to women will be the end in itself. This is kind of boring and I really prefer now going dressed. I wend last week to my favorite club, the Cat Club. This is a straight club, that on Wednesdays has an S&M theme. Really, all kinds of people show up and all are welcome. I wore a short dress, red and black leopard print and 4" pumps. I ended up dancing all night with a group of very attractive women. I had chats with all kinds of people, men and women. It seems like dressed you are part of the show.