In a sense, there is. What we do goes against our own best interests. For some reason (most don't want to know) we have come to the conclusion that we should dress in such a way that is sexually attractive to males. While we could choose to wear women's sweats, granny panties and a woman's undershirt, few if any, do. We desire to wear the stuff that blatantly, practically screams to the world (and ourselves) that we want to be considered as female. This goes against our natural tendency to have sex with as many females as possible, in order to pass along our dna.Originally Posted by Helen_Highwater
While we all huddle here and tell each other that what we're doing is perfectly natural, many of us have our genetic line end with us, more so perhaps than other straight males. So if it's genetic, naturally over time we would have gradually almost completely died out. But that's not the case; and perhaps we start to wonder why we are like this.
I started studying psychology as soon as I was able to. For me, that was the day my older sister came home with her psychology textbook. I think I was 13. And a big reason was, why did I want to wear girl's clothing, dress and behave like a girl, yet also kept falling in love with girls. Because there definitely is something wrong with that set of thoughts. It doesn't go together. After all, the rest of the males do everything they can to get a female mate. We do the opposite, and even when we KNOW it's against our best interests, we continue to do it anyway, ignoring all reason to stop.
We wonder why we do that. Some of us simply go to someone who knows more than we do. Others bury our noses into textbooks, papers, and converse with others that do the same thing in search of why we do this. Some eventually figure it out, some are afraid of what they might find out (because of the way our society stigmatizes males who embrace femininity in any way), so they don't want to know. Others have decided they don't care, because there's nothing they can do about it, much like feeling the need to eat a lot of ice cream even though we know we'll get fat. But we want to eat it anyway, so we do, and we get fat. Many people the world over do things against their own best interests. Look at the number of women who stay with men who beat them.
So, yeah, there's something wrong with us. We have to live with that. After awhile, we want to know why. Nothing unusual about that at all.
Edit: What I forgot to add, is that seeing a therapist IS NOT going to 'cure you' and the goal is not for you to be happy. Their goal is to get you to become a functional, contibuting member of society. They do that by giving you ways to deal with who and what you are, so you can get through each day. Some people believe that if they go to see a mental health professional, that once they discover why they feel how they do, they'll be cured and stop feeling that way. But that doesn't happen except on very rare occasions. All that happens is you figure out why you're dysfunctional. And then try to adapt yourself to that. Once in a blue moon someone is able to completely stop their dysfunctional feelings; but most often, they just accept that they have them, and do their best not to allow those thoughts to completely disrupt the rest of their lives.
