After dressing in a complete vacuum for 10 years, I came out online here and another site about 8 years ago. I was in my 60's back then.
I had already worked thru a few of the dressing issues that confounded me on my own. Like thinking I was gay, etc. Finding so many here I thot were like me was so exciting. I was like a kid in a candy store after dealing with it all on my own for so long!
Before then, Sherry had restored my lost sexuality and interest in women. Not really knowing anything about trans, I naively assumed that other dressers were turned on by their fem images, too. Boy, did I get slapped around back then. Deservedly, I mite add. Most trans did not seem open to discussing this "shameful" aspect of dressing. I developed a new found guilt because of that element in my dressing.
After a couple years here I began going out to meet others. That opened up a whole new aspect of dressing. When prepping to go out and while I'm out, sex never enters my mind. Now, I go out a couple times a month. Dressing with no sexual component in it for the last 5+ years. While still enjoying my stimulating closet dressing!
Over the years the attitude regarding the prevous tabou talk of sex has changed here, too.
It has taken me years but I'm losing that guilty feeling. I'm excited and a little bit cocky again enjoying sex at age 70+! I consider ANY sex between consenting adults or alone, to be good sex.
Anyone else gone or going thru the "sex shame" aspect of dressing?
Please, no graphic comments!