My wife is understanding and more or less supportive of me. Our daughter just turned 1.5 year's old so I started the discussion of how much of any dressing I can do around her. We decided that the risk is high of my in-laws finding out about me from innocent comments or revelations our daughter might make as she is starting to learn that boys and girls look and dress differently.
I have agreed to pack away the majority of my second wardobe, keeping out a few of my more androgynous items that I can wear after my daughter goes to bed.
I still need to figure out if/when/what I will tell her as she gets older, but for now don't want to put the burden of a trans dad on her.
Kind of sad, as I felt I was making some growth in accepting this part of my life that I have to stop the momentum in its tracks.