It may just be me who feels like this but I truly have a hard time finding sympathy for those that lie/hide their dressing from their SO. They do what they do, get caught, and are flabbergasted when their SO is pissed off.
"She doesn't trust me anymore". Well.........you don't really deserve that trust anymore.
"Make her go to counseling" people will say. Well......it's really not her that needs to go as she did nothing wrong.
You lied not her.
Anyways. That's just my opinion. Like it or not.