MissSecret
You should try and comply with your wife's request in the dressing, you made the offer and it was accepted. It is not easy and at times damned hard. Your own resolve is being tested (this is common in all relationships) in (future) dressing you are training yourself, that things are ok to do if not caught. (Unless resolved) Before disclosure what you were doing was not lying. This is important to any partner, if you are found out in this it will affect from that point on, your relationship. Guilt does strange things to our own minds and one starts to question every look and action. This can cause unbearable strain.
How to get your wife to talk about it I couldn't answer that. My wife has been attending my sessions for a few years and outside of that environment doesn't talk about my needs at all. Every thing is fluid ; what is ok today isn't always ok tomorrow.
When we tell our loved ones a huge burden of guilt is lifted from us, but passed onto them in ways we dont consider or even understand.
ok maybe I have read to much into this and it's ok to dress but not in her presence.
Best wishes for both of you. Gina
