This is such an interesting site. There are always all kinds of stories about the problems we face. This is another one.
I know that right now we haven't heard much from her husband. In fact we really know so very little. We only know one side of this story and surely there are others I'm having difficulty understanding the degree to which so many here have been so hard and relentless on a sister that is obviously having a very difficult time in coming out.
Why are we so quick to judge one of our own? I just don't understand that and it happens so much here.
For those of you that have come out, you know how hard it was and for those of you that haven't your getting a pretty good idea on this site. It can be gut wrenching and it takes real honest to goodness strength and courage.
I feel for my sister. Like many of us she has been closeted her whole life. Like may of us she has keep an integral part of her being secret. A secret that she felt so terrible she could not tell the ones she loved most. Like many of us she wrestled with being transgendered, with the shame and quilt that seems to come with it. She carried this with her for years and years.
It doesn't seem unreasonable to me that she would be in a "pink" fog. After years and years of all the bad feelings and the years of solitude and loneliness she's finally taken steps out of the closet and she wants to dance and sing and talk about it. She wants to test the new waters. She wants to try out new clothes and other femme things. She just wants to play and maybe catch up some. She wants to share her new self with so much enthusiasm that it scares her wife who is trying so hard.
How about giving her lots of time to talk and dance and sing about who she is and who she may become. How about giving her time to figure out what it's like out side the closet. How about making her welcome here?
Rikki
