Workplace hostility...

[Patience]

So,can you explain to your boss ? He may ask "the endgame is ?"

...and I'll say the end game is everyone dies in the end. I only have one life to live and what good is it if I'm not allowed to be myself? Also, I've only been exploring these feelings two years, come august. How can I know what I'll feel in two years if I can't even be sure I'll be alive in two years?

Anyway, I think I'm slowly reaching my dressing plateau for this job. Painted nails, panties more often than not; never ommando-kay. I still haven't added accessories. I'm adding pieces very gradually. Earrings next. I won't be dolling myself up at work for pride this time, but still expect to be fully dressed for Halloween.

Firstly, women's hairstyles are vastly more varied than men's cuts. The shorter style might be a try at a new look, or simply more comfortable. I seriously doubt that you had anything to do with her decision. It's not like she said "Ooooh, that guy is crossing gender boundaries, I guess I can get a 'butch' cut now!" Until or unless one of your male co-workers shows up sporting a beehive, I think it is safe to say that you aren't breaking down any gender barriers.

Crissy is right. You should stop being so negative.

Thank you for numbering your comments. Most folks aren't so considerate. I distinctly said I knew I shouldn't take credit. Is it so wrong for a person to engage in a bit of fantasy here - a website for men that like to think of themselves as women? I ask you rhetorically.

And you must admit that, from your vantage point, you can't claim anything conclusively either.

Secondly, if you are choosing to wear various articles of feminine clothing & accessories to work, it is naïve of you to think that your boss is totally unaware. People talk, ya know? He (or she) may have gotten the word from another employee.

This is a bit out of date. My fault. You're right, my boss could have been told by someone else, but realistically only two people would have gone through the trouble of mentioning it to my boss, and one of them might even have done; but you must agree that there's a big difference between your boss hearing that you do something and him seeing you do something.

Anyhow, I've accessed this site through my computer at work, so I have no doubt I'm more out than I think. It doesn't matter, though. I'm glad to tell you I've got a grip on the job now and it's been acknowledged by the people in charge of having to care about these things. Yay me.

Thirdly, and this is just a pet peeve of mine, unless you are working with high-schoolers, your female colleague is a woman, not a girl.

Firstly, it is not out of line for a man to refer to a woman 20 years his junior a girl. Maybe 40 in your case.

Secondly, you haven't seen (or heard) the person I'm talking about. If you did, you might have felt differently.

Thirdly, since you posted your response, there have been numerous threads (and even more posts) referring to various types of females (including us) as girls, and while I wasn't actively looking, I never saw you raise this objection ever again, which leads me to believe we can safely downgrade your peeve from "pet" to "petty".

Thank you for your interest.