I see there are a few threads that mention pronouns and labels and I wanted to share a few thoughts that have been occupying my scatter-brain lately
I was out in Hamburger Mary's a few months ago dressed, and the waiter called me Ma'am without a qualm which I found very pleasant. I have been out into stores on many occasions and always had people call me Ma'am or even Miss on a couple of occasions, which has also felt nice and normal. I do enjoy when I present myself as a female, that people refer to me as such, and when I am a in male mode, that people refer to me as such too.
I just saw the acronym MIAD, and confess I had to look it up! That does not describe me I feel, altho there is truth in it if one wants to be pedantic. I am part male and part female and the label for each is as appropriate as my appearance. I am good with that. I am definitely not a 'them' and do not really understand anyone who wishes to be referred to as such. Surely our various parts are all part of our whole? That is a realization I had a while ago after some very intensive group therapy: that Lara was and always will be an integral part of ME. There is only one ME, with some interesting parts of that whole
I would be very interested to hear other takes on this.