Lara you seem to be more of a gender fluid individual like myself. Both genders exist but present separately. They them both genders exist and there seems to be a more androgynous presentation. I say this based on my limited experience with a few who use they / them pronouns. I plan on talking with one of them in the near future about it more as part of my ongoing self discovery, and may be able to shed additional light on it then. I don't plan to get into their personal space much so no need for concern there. They are a very smart and helpful person who is there with a desire to help those of us in need and I think talking with them about gender things will help me know who I am better. They work at the local LBGTQ center and facilitate our transgender groups and such. Just so everyone knows why this person.
