I got to have some interesting private conversations with my wife yesterday.
She is ok with me taking dressing to what would be next step, buying a bra.
I have multiple pairs of panties, and as of now the feeling of wearing panties being just a fetish is slowly softening.
We have both been very open and are having what feels like the right talks. Still not sure where or how far all of this new self discovery will go, but she has been very open and accepting so far, even as to offer help with sizing.